Neha Ghosh cried tears of joy after a positive pregnancy test in 2020. The business development associate was about to become a mother for the first time at the age of 30.
But two years later, she says her experience of motherhood was very different from its portrayal in popular culture and society.
After giving birth, there were days when she felt befuddled, anxious and frustrated. At other times she was overprotective, extra careful and loving to her daughter, now 20 months old.
But the scariest days were when she had fleeting suicidal thoughts.
“Whenever I started to feel like that, I used to get so furious and helpless that I wanted to end my and my baby's life … I thought no one cared or would care for my baby if I died alone,” Ms Ghosh told The National.
She is among millions of women globally who, to varying degrees, are found to experience postpartum depression, or PPD.
This is a complex medical condition in which new mothers experience difficulty connecting with their child and swing between emotional highs and lows with frequent bouts of crying, anxiety, guilt and tiredness.
But women in India, where there is little awareness of the condition and discussion of mental health issues is considered taboo, appear to experience higher levels of PPD than elsewhere.
A report in 2020 by the US Centres for Disease Control found that about one in eight women experience symptoms of maternal depression, whereas about 22 per cent of Indian mothers are diagnosed with the condition, according to a report by the World Health Organisation in 2018.
PPD typically affects new mothers within two weeks of childbirth and in severe cases can lead to the woman harming herself or the child.
In January, a woman, 30, took her own life in the southern Indian state of Karnataka nine months after giving birth to a baby boy.
Soundarya Neeraj, a doctor and a granddaughter of former Karnataka chief minister BS Yediyurappa, had been diagnosed with PPD, according to some media reports.
Out of every 10 depressed patients we receive, two are for PPD. There has been a consistent rise in such cases in the past decade
Pulkit Sharma,
psychologist
“Out of every 10 depressed patients we receive, two are for PPD. There has been a consistent rise in such cases in the past decade,” Dr Pulkit Sharma, a psychologist at Vimhans, a neurosciences hospital in New Delhi, told The National.
While the condition is treatable, experts say there is very little awareness about PPD and the dangers it poses to the life and health of a new mother.
In many cases neither the women nor their families recognise the condition in time to get professional help and prevent complications.
Dr Sharma blames the lack of awareness and space for a woman to express herself as her life changes emotionally, physically, financially and socially after childbirth.
Traditionally, Indian women were seen as “just” mothers, but many now have flourishing careers and live in nuclear households instead of joint households.
For them, having a child brings overwhelming feelings of sidelining their careers and having to care for the family and the new baby alone.
Many people dismiss such feelings as “baby blues”, which primarily manifest as moodiness for up to two weeks after delivery. But in some women these feelings last much longer and can turn into PPD.
“Families do not understand the kind of changes a woman has gone through in such a short span of time, from her body to whole lifestyle,” Dr Sharma said.
India is a country with a strong family system, but some women feel left out as families, including partners, focus on the care of the baby, ignoring the needs of the mother.
“Families pay entire attention to the newborn. They forget the needs of the woman who has just given birth,” said Anjali Jain, 30, a mother recovering from PPD.
Ms Jain, from Noida, outside Delhi, had her first child, a son, three years ago. The pregnancy was not smooth but her real struggle began post-delivery.
“I felt disconnected from the child and detached from my husband. I started seeing my in-laws as an enemy who were smitten by my child but paid very little attention to me,” she said.
“They could not understand that I also needed love and care. But this has been a norm. Once the baby is out, the woman's identity is lost.”
Families pay entire attention to the newborn. They forget the needs of the woman who has just given birth
Anjali Jain,
30
A voracious reader, Ms Jain turned to medical blogs and books for answers. She also spoke of her feelings to her husband and in-laws, helping in her slow recovery.
But for Ms Ghosh, the severe mood swings and suicidal thoughts continued until she sought medical help last April after her father died in India's second wave of Covid-19 infections.
She is now receiving counselling and says that although the road to complete recovery is long, she is working towards healing.
“Something happened … I know the problems and am working on them. Most importantly, I am glad I didn’t take the extreme step,” she said.
Dr Sharma says while severe cases — about 3 to 4 per cent of the total — require professional treatment, including counselling and medication, patients with mild cases can be treated with emotional support and patient hearing, like in the case of Ms Jain.
He emphasised the need to watch for early signs of PPD in mothers, such as self-neglect, feeling disconnected from the child, crying and doubting their decision to give birth.
If you have been affected by any of the details raised in this story, you can contact the Vidyasagar Institute of Mental Health, Neuro & Allied Sciences (Vimhans) helpline, +91 9999 691 507, or email help@vimhans.com.
RESULTS
6.30pm Handicap (TB) US$65,000 (Dirt) 1,400m
Winner Golden Goal, Pat Dobbs (jockey), Doug Watson (trainer)
7.05pm Dubai Racing Club Classic Listed Handicap (TB) $88,000 (Turf) 2,410m
Winner: Walton Street, William Buick, Charlie Appleby.
7.40pm Dubai Stakes Group 3 (TB) $130,000 (D) 1,200m
Winner Switzerland, Tadhg O’Shea, Satish Seemar
8.15pm Singspiel Stakes Group 3 (TB) $163,000 (T) 1,800m
Winner Lord Giltters, Adrie de Vries, David O’Meara
8.50pm Al Maktoum Challenge Round-1 (TB) $228,000 (D) 1,600m
Winner Military Law, Antonio Fresu, Musabah Al Muhairi.
9.25pm Al Fahidi Fort Group 2 (TB) $163,000 (T) 1,400m
Winner Land Of Legends, Frankie Dettori, Saeed bin Suroor
10pm Dubai Dash Listed Handicap (TB) $88,000 (T) 1,000m
Winner Equilateral, Frankie Dettori, Charles Hills.
Tearful appearance
Chancellor Rachel Reeves set markets on edge as she appeared visibly distraught in parliament on Wednesday.
Legislative setbacks for the government have blown a new hole in the budgetary calculations at a time when the deficit is stubbornly large and the economy is struggling to grow.
She appeared with Keir Starmer on Thursday and the pair embraced, but he had failed to give her his backing as she cried a day earlier.
A spokesman said her upset demeanour was due to a personal matter.
Key facilities
- Olympic-size swimming pool with a split bulkhead for multi-use configurations, including water polo and 50m/25m training lanes
- Premier League-standard football pitch
- 400m Olympic running track
- NBA-spec basketball court with auditorium
- 600-seat auditorium
- Spaces for historical and cultural exploration
- An elevated football field that doubles as a helipad
- Specialist robotics and science laboratories
- AR and VR-enabled learning centres
- Disruption Lab and Research Centre for developing entrepreneurial skills
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Benefits of first-time home buyers' scheme
- Priority access to new homes from participating developers
- Discounts on sales price of off-plan units
- Flexible payment plans from developers
- Mortgages with better interest rates, faster approval times and reduced fees
- DLD registration fee can be paid through banks or credit cards at zero interest rates
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The specs
Engine: 2.9-litre, V6 twin-turbo
Transmission: seven-speed PDK dual clutch automatic
Power: 375bhp
Torque: 520Nm
Price: Dh332,800
On sale: now
Two products to make at home
Toilet cleaner
1 cup baking soda
1 cup castile soap
10-20 drops of lemon essential oil (or another oil of your choice)
Method:
1. Mix the baking soda and castile soap until you get a nice consistency.
2. Add the essential oil to the mix.
Air Freshener
100ml water
5 drops of the essential oil of your choice (note: lavender is a nice one for this)
Method:
1. Add water and oil to spray bottle to store.
2. Shake well before use.
Dust and sand storms compared
Sand storm
- Particle size: Larger, heavier sand grains
- Visibility: Often dramatic with thick "walls" of sand
- Duration: Short-lived, typically localised
- Travel distance: Limited
- Source: Open desert areas with strong winds
Dust storm
- Particle size: Much finer, lightweight particles
- Visibility: Hazy skies but less intense
- Duration: Can linger for days
- Travel distance: Long-range, up to thousands of kilometres
- Source: Can be carried from distant regions
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Three trading apps to try
Sharad Nair recommends three investment apps for UAE residents:
- For beginners or people who want to start investing with limited capital, Mr Nair suggests eToro. “The low fees and low minimum balance requirements make the platform more accessible,” he says. “The user interface is straightforward to understand and operate, while its social element may help ease beginners into the idea of investing money by looking to a virtual community.”
- If you’re an experienced investor, and have $10,000 or more to invest, consider Saxo Bank. “Saxo Bank offers a more comprehensive trading platform with advanced features and insight for more experienced users. It offers a more personalised approach to opening and operating an account on their platform,” he says.
- Finally, StashAway could work for those who want a hands-off approach to their investing. “It removes one of the biggest challenges for novice traders: picking the securities in their portfolio,” Mr Nair says. “A goal-based approach or view towards investing can help motivate residents who may usually shy away from investment platforms.”
Profile of Whizkey
Date founded: 04 November 2017
Founders: Abdulaziz AlBlooshi and Harsh Hirani
Based: Dubai, UAE
Number of employees: 10
Sector: AI, software
Cashflow: Dh2.5 Million
Funding stage: Series A
The BIO:
He became the first Emirati to climb Mount Everest in 2011, from the south section in Nepal
He ascended Mount Everest the next year from the more treacherous north Tibetan side
By 2015, he had completed the Explorers Grand Slam
Last year, he conquered K2, the world’s second-highest mountain located on the Pakistan-Chinese border
He carries dried camel meat, dried dates and a wheat mixture for the final summit push
His new goal is to climb 14 peaks that are more than 8,000 metres above sea level
UEFA CHAMPIONS LEAGUE FIXTURES
All kick-off times 10.45pm UAE ( 4 GMT) unless stated
Tuesday
Sevilla v Maribor
Spartak Moscow v Liverpool
Manchester City v Shakhtar Donetsk
Napoli v Feyenoord
Besiktas v RB Leipzig
Monaco v Porto
Apoel Nicosia v Tottenham Hotspur
Borussia Dortmund v Real Madrid
Wednesday
Basel v Benfica
CSKA Moscow Manchester United
Paris Saint-Germain v Bayern Munich
Anderlecht v Celtic
Qarabag v Roma (8pm)
Atletico Madrid v Chelsea
Juventus v Olympiakos
Sporting Lisbon v Barcelona
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UAE currency: the story behind the money in your pockets
OPINIONS ON PALESTINE & ISRAEL
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RESULTS
6.30pm: Maiden Dh165,000 (Dirt) 1,200
Winner: Miqyaas, Adrie de Vries (jockey), Rashed Bouresly (trainer).
7.05pm: Handicap Dh165,000 (D) 1,600m
Winner: Untold Secret, Xavier Ziani, Salem bin Ghadayer.
7.40pm: Maiden Dh165,000 (D) 1,600m
Winner: Shanty Star, Fabrice Veron, Rashed Bouresly.
8.15pm: Handicap Dh190,000 (D) 1,600m
Winner: Alkaamel, Antonio Fresu, Musabah Al Muhairi.
8.50pm: Handicap Dh175,000 (D) 1,400m
Winner: Speedy Move, Richard Mullen, Satish Seemar.
9.25pm: Handicap Dh175,000 (D) 2,000m
Winner: Quartier Francois, Fernando Jara, Ali Rashid Al Raihe.
Is it worth it? We put cheesecake frap to the test.
The verdict from the nutritionists is damning. But does a cheesecake frappuccino taste good enough to merit the indulgence?
My advice is to only go there if you have unusually sweet tooth. I like my puddings, but this was a bit much even for me. The first hit is a winner, but it's downhill, slowly, from there. Each sip is a little less satisfying than the last, and maybe it was just all that sugar, but it isn't long before the rush is replaced by a creeping remorse. And half of the thing is still left.
The caramel version is far superior to the blueberry, too. If someone put a full caramel cheesecake through a liquidiser and scooped out the contents, it would probably taste something like this. Blueberry, on the other hand, has more of an artificial taste. It's like someone has tried to invent this drink in a lab, and while early results were promising, they're still in the testing phase. It isn't terrible, but something isn't quite right either.
So if you want an experience, go for a small, and opt for the caramel. But if you want a cheesecake, it's probably more satisfying, and not quite as unhealthy, to just order the real thing.
Defence review at a glance
• Increase defence spending to 2.5% of GDP by 2027 but given “turbulent times it may be necessary to go faster”
• Prioritise a shift towards working with AI and autonomous systems
• Invest in the resilience of military space systems.
• Number of active reserves should be increased by 20%
• More F-35 fighter jets required in the next decade
• New “hybrid Navy” with AUKUS submarines and autonomous vessels
SCORES IN BRIEF
New Zealand 153 and 56 for 1 in 22.4 overs at close
Pakistan 227
(Babar 62, Asad 43, Boult 4-54, De Grandhomme 2-30, Patel 2-64)
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Essentials
The flights: You can fly from the UAE to Iceland with one stop in Europe with a variety of airlines. Return flights with Emirates from Dubai to Stockholm, then Icelandair to Reykjavik, cost from Dh4,153 return. The whole trip takes 11 hours. British Airways flies from Abu Dhabi and Dubai to Reykjavik, via London, with return flights taking 12 hours and costing from Dh2,490 return, including taxes.
The activities: A half-day Silfra snorkelling trip costs 14,990 Icelandic kronur (Dh544) with Dive.is. Inside the Volcano also takes half a day and costs 42,000 kronur (Dh1,524). The Jokulsarlon small-boat cruise lasts about an hour and costs 9,800 kronur (Dh356). Into the Glacier costs 19,500 kronur (Dh708). It lasts three to four hours.
The tours: It’s often better to book a tailor-made trip through a specialist operator. UK-based Discover the World offers seven nights, self-driving, across the island from £892 (Dh4,505) per person. This includes three nights’ accommodation at Hotel Husafell near Into the Glacier, two nights at Hotel Ranga and two nights at the Icelandair Hotel Klaustur. It includes car rental, plus an iPad with itinerary and tourist information pre-loaded onto it, while activities can be booked as optional extras. More information inspiredbyiceland.com
