SHARJAH // An unmarried mother who abandons her child could suffer deep psychological scars and may never get over the remorse.
“It is the rare occasion that a mother can abandon her baby without suffering acute and chronic psychological pain, such as extreme shame and guilt, fear and anxiety of the child’s survival and well-being, sadness and grief over the loss, and extreme remorse,” said Dr Deema Sihweil, a clinical psychologist and director of the Carbone Clinic in Dubai Healthcare City.
For the child too, the story does not end with their discovery, she said. If a child grows up and learns of their abandonment they may suffer the conscious trauma of being neglected by the very person they should have been able to trust most in this world.
The motivating factors behind mothers who have abandoned their children vary.
Postnatal depression may be a factor but Dr Sihweil believes women are mostly acting out of fear.
“I would imagine that the deliberate abandoning of a child has more thought-out motivations … people are paranoid that having sex out of wedlock, being a pregnant and delivering a child without presenting a marriage certificate could lead to jail and deportation.
“For many, sadly, the legal implications could certainly compel women to make choices that they may not otherwise make in their home country.”
As travelling to other countries to terminate a pregnancy can be too costly and with abortion in the UAE being strictly forbidden women can feel trapped, she said.
“When under extreme fear, anxiety and isolation in making such a choice, it is often understandable and inevitable that some women will make the seemingly unjust choice to abandon the child,” she said.
Despite this, mothers should not try to hide the pregnancy and attempt to give birth without the help of a trained expert, she said. Aside from the mental trauma, there are also physical dangers to both mother and child in giving birth without medical assistance.
Complications can include extreme pain during delivery, umbilical cords wrapped around necks and several other birthing dangers.
Dr Hiam Harfoush, a specialist in obstetrics and gynaecology at Burjeel Hospital in Abu Dhabi, said it was imperative for both mother and child that a woman gave birth in a clean, safe environment with the correct medical equipment.
“There is a very high health risk if you give birth without medical assistance.
“There is the risk of infection for the baby and for the mother with what instrument is used to cut the cord. It might cause serious infection which can cause maternity death. It is very important.”
A child’s health is also dependent on the mother in the crucial first few months after birth, she said.
“It is important to have the skin-to-skin contact from the first moment for the child. It is very important for the health of the baby and for the regulation of the breathing for the baby – it reduces all complications that happen from the first hour after birth.”
Psychologically, in the first 24 hours after birth a baby needs his mother. “There are many studies that happen around the world about this problem,” said Dr Harfoush. “The patient delivers then because of legal issues the baby is separated from the mother then sometimes they are adopted by some other family.
“But when they are grown up they have psychiatric problems and most of them need support. It really causes trauma.”
Dr Sihweil said people needed to be aware of and respect the laws of the country and not get themselves in this position.
“Most people are aware of the laws surrounding sex, marriage and pregnancy and ultimately it is the responsibility of the residents of this country to consider the possible detrimental and life-threatening consequences of their choices.”
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In numbers: PKK’s money network in Europe
Germany: PKK collectors typically bring in $18 million in cash a year – amount has trebled since 2010
Revolutionary tax: Investigators say about $2 million a year raised from ‘tax collection’ around Marseille
Extortion: Gunman convicted in 2023 of demanding $10,000 from Kurdish businessman in Stockholm
Drug trade: PKK income claimed by Turkish anti-drugs force in 2024 to be as high as $500 million a year
Denmark: PKK one of two terrorist groups along with Iranian separatists ASMLA to raise “two-digit million amounts”
Contributions: Hundreds of euros expected from typical Kurdish families and thousands from business owners
TV channel: Kurdish Roj TV accounts frozen and went bankrupt after Denmark fined it more than $1 million over PKK links in 2013
What should do investors do now?
What does the S&P 500's new all-time high mean for the average investor?
Should I be euphoric?
No. It's fine to be pleased about hearty returns on your investments. But it's not a good idea to tie your emotions closely to the ups and downs of the stock market. You'll get tired fast. This market moment comes on the heels of last year's nosedive. And it's not the first or last time the stock market will make a dramatic move.
So what happened?
It's more about what happened last year. Many of the concerns that triggered that plunge towards the end of last have largely been quelled. The US and China are slowly moving toward a trade agreement. The Federal Reserve has indicated it likely will not raise rates at all in 2019 after seven recent increases. And those changes, along with some strong earnings reports and broader healthy economic indicators, have fueled some optimism in stock markets.
"The panic in the fourth quarter was based mostly on fears," says Brent Schutte, chief investment strategist for Northwestern Mutual Wealth Management Company. "The fundamentals have mostly held up, while the fears have gone away and the fears were based mostly on emotion."
Should I buy? Should I sell?
Maybe. It depends on what your long-term investment plan is. The best advice is usually the same no matter the day — determine your financial goals, make a plan to reach them and stick to it.
"I would encourage (investors) not to overreact to highs, just as I would encourage them not to overreact to the lows of December," Mr Schutte says.
All the same, there are some situations in which you should consider taking action. If you think you can't live through another low like last year, the time to get out is now. If the balance of assets in your portfolio is out of whack thanks to the rise of the stock market, make adjustments. And if you need your money in the next five to 10 years, it shouldn't be in stocks anyhow. But for most people, it's also a good time to just leave things be.
Resist the urge to abandon the diversification of your portfolio, Mr Schutte cautions. It may be tempting to shed other investments that aren't performing as well, such as some international stocks, but diversification is designed to help steady your performance over time.
Will the rally last?
No one knows for sure. But David Bailin, chief investment officer at Citi Private Bank, expects the US market could move up 5 per cent to 7 per cent more over the next nine to 12 months, provided the Fed doesn't raise rates and earnings growth exceeds current expectations. We are in a late cycle market, a period when US equities have historically done very well, but volatility also rises, he says.
"This phase can last six months to several years, but it's important clients remain invested and not try to prematurely position for a contraction of the market," Mr Bailin says. "Doing so would risk missing out on important portfolio returns."
Straightforward ways to reduce sugar in your family's diet
- Ban fruit juice and sodas
- Eat a hearty breakfast that contains fats and wholegrains, such as peanut butter on multigrain toast or full-fat plain yoghurt with whole fruit and nuts, to avoid the need for a 10am snack
- Give young children plain yoghurt with whole fruits mashed into it
- Reduce the number of cakes, biscuits and sweets. Reserve them for a treat
- Don’t eat dessert every day
- Make your own smoothies. Always use the whole fruit to maintain the benefit of its fibre content and don’t add any sweeteners
- Always go for natural whole foods over processed, packaged foods. Ask yourself would your grandmother have eaten it?
- Read food labels if you really do feel the need to buy processed food
- Eat everything in moderation
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The five stages of early child’s play
From Dubai-based clinical psychologist Daniella Salazar:
1. Solitary Play: This is where Infants and toddlers start to play on their own without seeming to notice the people around them. This is the beginning of play.
2. Onlooker play: This occurs where the toddler enjoys watching other people play. There doesn’t necessarily need to be any effort to begin play. They are learning how to imitate behaviours from others. This type of play may also appear in children who are more shy and introverted.
3. Parallel Play: This generally starts when children begin playing side-by-side without any interaction. Even though they aren’t physically interacting they are paying attention to each other. This is the beginning of the desire to be with other children.
4. Associative Play: At around age four or five, children become more interested in each other than in toys and begin to interact more. In this stage children start asking questions and talking about the different activities they are engaging in. They realise they have similar goals in play such as building a tower or playing with cars.
5. Social Play: In this stage children are starting to socialise more. They begin to share ideas and follow certain rules in a game. They slowly learn the definition of teamwork. They get to engage in basic social skills and interests begin to lead social interactions.
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- 600-seat auditorium
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