Shaima has battled anorexia and bulimia for more than eight years.
The 23-year-old Emirati has a degree in nutrition and psychology, so she knows what she should be eating and that her behaviour is not healthy.
But she still cannot overcome the illness, which has now caused her to stop menstruating.
"I worry about not being able to have children but I also don't want to get pregnant because I will be fat," she said.
A healthy weight for Shaima is about 61 kilograms but she has dropped as low as 45kg.
At school and college, she had trouble concentrating and suffered from depression, which led her to self harm.
"When you want to be perfect, your grades must be perfect just like your body," she said.
When she first told her parents three years ago, she was sent to therapy. But she resisted help and adopted a common practice among bulimics, of eating in front of people then making herself vomit in private.
"I didn't want the help," she said.
Shaima's problems began as a teenager when she found "pro-ana" websites promoting anorexia that offered tips on how to starve yourself and make yourself sick.
Despite symptoms such as hair loss and numerous bruises and wounds from self-harming, she managed to keep her behaviour secret for years.
Her family now know but still struggle to understand.
"Your eyes just don't work the way their eyes do. We don't see the same things," she said. "It's complicated. Sometimes you want to get better and sometimes you don't."
She is now in therapy of her own volition and is on medication.
But she still cannot eat enough and her day consists of two coffees, a piece of fruit and three tough hours in the gym, which she slogs through with very little energy.
"At university I was at my best," she said. "I had distractions but now I'm just alone with my thoughts."
Shaima said that while campaigns for schoolchildren might raise awareness of eating disorders, they could also leave dangerous impressions. "If a girl wants to be thin she will do whatever she wants anyway," she said.
Even with help, the road to recovery is long and hard.
"My therapy is helping but if you're not willing to help yourself, nobody can help you," she said.
mswan@thenational.ae
Ms Yang's top tips for parents new to the UAE
- Join parent networks
- Look beyond school fees
- Keep an open mind
The rules on fostering in the UAE
A foster couple or family must:
- be Muslim, Emirati and be residing in the UAE
- not be younger than 25 years old
- not have been convicted of offences or crimes involving moral turpitude
- be free of infectious diseases or psychological and mental disorders
- have the ability to support its members and the foster child financially
- undertake to treat and raise the child in a proper manner and take care of his or her health and well-being
- A single, divorced or widowed Muslim Emirati female, residing in the UAE may apply to foster a child if she is at least 30 years old and able to support the child financially
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Romelu Lukaku's goalscoring statistics in the Premier League
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2014/15 Everton: 36(4) - 10
2015/16 Everton: 37(1) - 18
2016/17 Everton: 37(1) - 25
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Uefa Champions League semi-finals, first leg
Liverpool v Roma
When: April 24, 10.45pm kick-off (UAE)
Where: Anfield, Liverpool
Live: BeIN Sports HD
Second leg: May 2, Stadio Olimpico, Rome
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Uefa Champions League semi-final, second leg
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Dos
- Wear the right fabric for the right season and occasion
- Always ask for the dress code if you don’t know
- Wear a white kandura, white ghutra / shemagh (headwear) and black shoes for work
- Wear 100 per cent cotton under the kandura as most fabrics are polyester
Don’ts
- Wear hamdania for work, always wear a ghutra and agal
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Draw:
Group A: Egypt, DR Congo, Uganda, Zimbabwe
Group B: Nigeria, Guinea, Madagascar, Burundi
Group C: Senegal, Algeria, Kenya, Tanzania
Group D: Morocco, Ivory Coast, South Africa, Namibia
Group E: Tunisia, Mali, Mauritania, Angola
Group F: Cameroon, Ghana, Benin, Guinea-Bissau