AUGUSTA // Debbie Phelps received a lot of face time during the Olympics.
Now, in the wake of her son winning eight gold medals at the Beijing Games, she is putting out her own book to relate the experiences of a single mother raising three children, one of whom turned out to be the greatest swimmer.
In A Mother For All Seasons, to have been released late last night, Michael Phelps's mother even touches on the embarrassment of her son being photographed inhaling from a marijuana pipe after his Olympic triumph.
"Yes, it's an obstacle, a speed bump," Debbie said as she worked late at the Baltimore-area middle school where she serves as the principal. "But things happen for a reason. This is something that all parents go through in some form, it just doesn't happen to most people after your son has won eight gold medals at the Olympics."
The picture of Phelps turned up in a British tabloid on Feb 1, severely damaging the reputation of an athlete who broke Mark Spitz's 36-year-old record for the most gold medals at one Olympics. It was the second major faux pas for the swimmer, who pleaded guilty to a drunken driving charge after winning six golds at the Athens Olympics in 2004.
Debbie was livid when her son called with news of his drunken driving arrest, and it was another tough blow when she learned of his latest troubles. But she made sure to express her love and understanding, especially when he came under intense criticism, lost a major sponsor and received a three-month suspension from USA Swimming.
"It was difficult, very difficult," she said. "As a parent, you very much want to listen to what your children have to say, and you also hope they listen to what you have to say, too. I told him how much I loved him.
"He knows he has my support and anything he needs. A mother is always there for her children. Michael knew that, but he needed to hear it."
The swimmer was hesitant to discuss the incident at first, even with his mother. But Debbie managed to break down that barrier. "There were times when he was like, 'I don't want to talk right now'. And I would [say], 'I know you don't, but maybe we need to'," she related.
"Eventually, we were able to talk about the whole incident and process it and he was able to share with me his side."
Debbie's book is divided into 12 chapters, mirroring the months of the year and the ever-changing seasons. She writes of an idyllic childhood growing up in a small town in western Maryland, then having to deal with two traumatic blows: the untimely death of her father, and a divorce that left her a single parent raising two daughters and a son.
"My mother had no profession," she said. "When my father died, there she was. I watched her make five dollars out of one dollar, a dollar out of 10 cents. She stretched a budget. But she also taught me so much about how to embrace life: have faith, believe in God and we will get through this as a family."
Those lessons were invaluable to Debbie when her marriage fell apart. "The man I married, who was the father to my three children, he was like my knight in shining armour," Debbie said. "He was my high school sweetheart. We were together a long time. But what I found is that when you get married sometimes, instead of growing closer, you grow apart.
"That happens in a lot of marriages around the country and probably around the world. When that whole thing happened, I was surprised, I was shocked, it was not what I expected.
"Now, what do you do when something goes wrong in your life? Some people go into deep depression. They can't process the whole thing. Or you can accept it and try to move forward in your life."
Drawing on her mother's experience, Debbie made some jarring changes. She was a teacher working at a high-performing middle school, but felt more fulfilled after switching to a school where many of the students came from underprivileged backgrounds. She also returned to college to get her master's degree, which led to a new career path as a principal and school administrator.
Throughout the book, she mixes in writings from all of her children, everything from school essays to classroom papers to Phelps' childhood journal.
"When they were reading those things, they would say, 'I remember writing that'," Debbie said. "It would even take them back mentally to what they were doing when they were writing those things. Being in a college dorm. Being in so-and-so's English class.
"Life is so rich. Sometimes, people don't embrace how rich it can be. In the book, you can hear that voice. What do you do when an obstacle gets in the way? How do you overcome it? How do you embrace it?"
Those were handy lessons when dealing with Phelps's latest woes. While clearly she does not defend her son's actions, Debbie seems stung by the ferocity of the condemnation and ridicule her son faced after the infamous photograph was published. "Any time a parent's child gets belittled, it hurts, it hurts a lot," she said. "Sometimes, people are cruel."
This incident has led Debbie to a new crusade: developing programmes to help athletes cope with life after fame. She has read up on the subject and believes many athletes, after working to develop their skills for competition, find themselves unprepared to deal with the real world.
"When they've met this optimal goal, sometimes it's a hard process to come down from it," she said. "When that last event has been swum, what happens next?"
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Director: Basel Adra, Yuval Abraham, Rachel Szor, Hamdan Ballal
Stars: Basel Adra, Yuval Abraham
Rating: 3.5/5
The rules on fostering in the UAE
A foster couple or family must:
- be Muslim, Emirati and be residing in the UAE
- not be younger than 25 years old
- not have been convicted of offences or crimes involving moral turpitude
- be free of infectious diseases or psychological and mental disorders
- have the ability to support its members and the foster child financially
- undertake to treat and raise the child in a proper manner and take care of his or her health and well-being
- A single, divorced or widowed Muslim Emirati female, residing in the UAE may apply to foster a child if she is at least 30 years old and able to support the child financially
Tips for job-seekers
- Do not submit your application through the Easy Apply button on LinkedIn. Employers receive between 600 and 800 replies for each job advert on the platform. If you are the right fit for a job, connect to a relevant person in the company on LinkedIn and send them a direct message.
- Make sure you are an exact fit for the job advertised. If you are an HR manager with five years’ experience in retail and the job requires a similar candidate with five years’ experience in consumer, you should apply. But if you have no experience in HR, do not apply for the job.
David Mackenzie, founder of recruitment agency Mackenzie Jones Middle East
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(Yale University Press)
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Ali Kasheif, Salim Rashid, Khalifa Al Hammadi, Khalfan Mubarak, Ali Mabkhout, Omar Abdulrahman, Mohammed Al Attas, Abdullah Ramadan, Zayed Al Ameri (Al Jazira), Mohammed Al Shamsi, Hamdan Al Kamali, Mohammed Barghash, Khalil Al Hammadi (Al Wahda), Khalid Essa, Mohammed Shaker, Ahmed Barman, Bandar Al Ahbabi (Al Ain), Al Hassan Saleh, Majid Suroor (Sharjah) Walid Abbas, Ahmed Khalil (Shabab Al Ahli), Tariq Ahmed, Jasim Yaqoub (Al Nasr), Ali Saleh, Ali Salmeen (Al Wasl), Hassan Al Muharami (Baniyas)
Skewed figures
In the village of Mevagissey in southwest England the housing stock has doubled in the last century while the number of residents is half the historic high. The village's Neighbourhood Development Plan states that 26% of homes are holiday retreats. Prices are high, averaging around £300,000, £50,000 more than the Cornish average of £250,000. The local average wage is £15,458.
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Tries: Finck, Powell, Jordan, Roderick, Heathcote
Cons: Tredray 2, Powell
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Ms Yang's top tips for parents new to the UAE
- Join parent networks
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- Keep an open mind
Mercer, the investment consulting arm of US services company Marsh & McLennan, expects its wealth division to at least double its assets under management (AUM) in the Middle East as wealth in the region continues to grow despite economic headwinds, a company official said.
Mercer Wealth, which globally has $160 billion in AUM, plans to boost its AUM in the region to $2-$3bn in the next 2-3 years from the present $1bn, said Yasir AbuShaban, a Dubai-based principal with Mercer Wealth.
“Within the next two to three years, we are looking at reaching $2 to $3 billion as a conservative estimate and we do see an opportunity to do so,” said Mr AbuShaban.
Mercer does not directly make investments, but allocates clients’ money they have discretion to, to professional asset managers. They also provide advice to clients.
“We have buying power. We can negotiate on their (client’s) behalf with asset managers to provide them lower fees than they otherwise would have to get on their own,” he added.
Mercer Wealth’s clients include sovereign wealth funds, family offices, and insurance companies among others.
From its office in Dubai, Mercer also looks after Africa, India and Turkey, where they also see opportunity for growth.
Wealth creation in Middle East and Africa (MEA) grew 8.5 per cent to $8.1 trillion last year from $7.5tn in 2015, higher than last year’s global average of 6 per cent and the second-highest growth in a region after Asia-Pacific which grew 9.9 per cent, according to consultancy Boston Consulting Group (BCG). In the region, where wealth grew just 1.9 per cent in 2015 compared with 2014, a pickup in oil prices has helped in wealth generation.
BCG is forecasting MEA wealth will rise to $12tn by 2021, growing at an annual average of 8 per cent.
Drivers of wealth generation in the region will be split evenly between new wealth creation and growth of performance of existing assets, according to BCG.
Another general trend in the region is clients’ looking for a comprehensive approach to investing, according to Mr AbuShaban.
“Institutional investors or some of the families are seeing a slowdown in the available capital they have to invest and in that sense they are looking at optimizing the way they manage their portfolios and making sure they are not investing haphazardly and different parts of their investment are working together,” said Mr AbuShaban.
Some clients also have a higher appetite for risk, given the low interest-rate environment that does not provide enough yield for some institutional investors. These clients are keen to invest in illiquid assets, such as private equity and infrastructure.
“What we have seen is a desire for higher returns in what has been a low-return environment specifically in various fixed income or bonds,” he said.
“In this environment, we have seen a de facto increase in the risk that clients are taking in things like illiquid investments, private equity investments, infrastructure and private debt, those kind of investments were higher illiquidity results in incrementally higher returns.”
The Abu Dhabi Investment Authority, one of the largest sovereign wealth funds, said in its 2016 report that has gradually increased its exposure in direct private equity and private credit transactions, mainly in Asian markets and especially in China and India. The authority’s private equity department focused on structured equities owing to “their defensive characteristics.”
COMPANY PROFILE
Name: Kumulus Water
Started: 2021
Founders: Iheb Triki and Mohamed Ali Abid
Based: Tunisia
Sector: Water technology
Number of staff: 22
Investment raised: $4 million
Ruwais timeline
1971 Abu Dhabi National Oil Company established
1980 Ruwais Housing Complex built, located 10 kilometres away from industrial plants
1982 120,000 bpd capacity Ruwais refinery complex officially inaugurated by the founder of the UAE Sheikh Zayed
1984 Second phase of Ruwais Housing Complex built. Today the 7,000-unit complex houses some 24,000 people.
1985 The refinery is expanded with the commissioning of a 27,000 b/d hydro cracker complex
2009 Plans announced to build $1.2 billion fertilizer plant in Ruwais, producing urea
2010 Adnoc awards $10bn contracts for expansion of Ruwais refinery, to double capacity from 415,000 bpd
2014 Ruwais 261-outlet shopping mall opens
2014 Production starts at newly expanded Ruwais refinery, providing jet fuel and diesel and allowing the UAE to be self-sufficient for petrol supplies
2014 Etihad Rail begins transportation of sulphur from Shah and Habshan to Ruwais for export
2017 Aldar Academies to operate Adnoc’s schools including in Ruwais from September. Eight schools operate in total within the housing complex.
2018 Adnoc announces plans to invest $3.1 billion on upgrading its Ruwais refinery
2018 NMC Healthcare selected to manage operations of Ruwais Hospital
2018 Adnoc announces new downstream strategy at event in Abu Dhabi on May 13
Source: The National
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