‘I was reading your story and ...” Every columnist hopes their writing will have an impact on the reader. Perhaps the piece touches the reader in some way, inspires them, makes them pause for thought or, perhaps, the reader simply enjoyed the message that piece of work conveyed.
So, when a column I wrote in 2013 is still getting letters, you would think I would feel overjoyed that people continue to respond to it.
Sadly, nothing could be further from the truth.
“Can you send me the contacts you mention of the people who provide Syrian brides? I want one for myself and for a friend,” a letter writer asked me, conveniently copying the link to my column about the desperate plight of Syrian refugees in his email.
“I always wanted a fair woman. And I heard Syrian woman are fair and obedient, so can you help me get one for myself?” wrote another.
I am repulsed by these requests and delete them immediately. They miss the point I was making about female refugees who are being trafficked and married off to strangers and sleazy older men and who are often returned to the refugee camps if they become pregnant.
I made the mistake of replying to the first two emails I received. In both cases, I lectured the letter writer about why it was wrong to prey on desperate refugee women and talk about them as if they were a product for sale. The responses I received were obnoxious, but one comment in particular really got under my skin: “They should be grateful we are even marrying them. We can just use them without marriage.”
While most didn’t say where they are from, those who did said they were from Pakistan, from Kenya, from Nigeria and from the United States.
The one from the US said he “just wanted to help” and was “willing” to consider marriage if the bride seemed “suitable”.
“Is there a number I can call to find out more about the Syrian brides?” asked “John” from Austin, Texas. The one factor all of them mentioned, without hesitation, was how they were only interested in “very young” brides.
Besides these women-related emails, the other most common response I get is about “dream interpretation”.
I wrote a story about it a while ago and am still getting requests from people asking me to “explain this dream for me”. Some people seem to think I am a dream expert. Nothing should surprise me. I have seen how anything can happen in conflict zones: an elderly lady was beaten up for a lame gold necklace, and children were used as forced labour, and worse still, as victims of black-market organ donors. A 14-year-old boy once pulled up his shirt and showed me the hideous scar across his back: “They took a kidney,” he said: “but I am lucky, they left me the other.”
Who needs horror movies when you can just drop by a war zone and see it in real time? When I disguised myself as a refugee in Lebanon, I sat with a group of women and saw what kind of emotional, verbal and physical abuse they endured almost on a daily basis. At every turn, someone wanted to take advantage of them in some way, either by not paying them their promised wages (the authorities ignored their pleas for justice), or wanting to recruit them for trafficking with promises like: “At least you will be fed regularly”.
Desperate people, regardless of what nationality they are and where they are in the world, are preyed upon. Besides women and children, men are victims too, especially young men, who are targeted by extremist groups, recruited as fighters and often spirited away by older manipulative group leaders.
The policemen in Iraq who dressed up as women to avoid being executed by ISIL is just an example of what lengths people will go to in order to stay alive.
Even that may not be enough, as they risk being raped by the terror group members.
From brides to dreams, it is interesting what pieces get a reaction from readers. It is my hope that other more important pieces are having a positive if quiet impact.
rghazal@thenational.ae
On Twitter:@arabianmau
Real estate tokenisation project
Dubai launched the pilot phase of its real estate tokenisation project last month.
The initiative focuses on converting real estate assets into digital tokens recorded on blockchain technology and helps in streamlining the process of buying, selling and investing, the Dubai Land Department said.
Dubai’s real estate tokenisation market is projected to reach Dh60 billion ($16.33 billion) by 2033, representing 7 per cent of the emirate’s total property transactions, according to the DLD.
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Engine: Four electric motors, one at each wheel
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City's slump
L - Juventus, 2-0
D - C Palace, 2-2
W - N Forest, 3-0
L - Liverpool, 2-0
D - Feyenoord, 3-3
L - Tottenham, 4-0
L - Brighton, 2-1
L - Sporting, 4-1
L - Bournemouth, 2-1
L - Tottenham, 2-1
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Cast: Nayanthara, Siddharth, Meera Jasmine, R Madhavan
Star rating: 2/5
The low down
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Director: Namrata Singh Gujral
Cast: Rajkummar Rao, Nargis Fakhri, Bo Derek, Candy Clark
Rating: 2/5
A MINECRAFT MOVIE
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Rating: 3/5
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Volvo ES90 Specs
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Power: 333hp, 449hp, 680hp
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Quick pearls of wisdom
Focus on gratitude: And do so deeply, he says. “Think of one to three things a day that you’re grateful for. It needs to be specific, too, don’t just say ‘air.’ Really think about it. If you’re grateful for, say, what your parents have done for you, that will motivate you to do more for the world.”
Know how to fight: Shetty married his wife, Radhi, three years ago (he met her in a meditation class before he went off and became a monk). He says they’ve had to learn to respect each other’s “fighting styles” – he’s a talk it-out-immediately person, while she needs space to think. “When you’re having an argument, remember, it’s not you against each other. It’s both of you against the problem. When you win, they lose. If you’re on a team you have to win together.”
What is a robo-adviser?
Robo-advisers use an online sign-up process to gauge an investor’s risk tolerance by feeding information such as their age, income, saving goals and investment history into an algorithm, which then assigns them an investment portfolio, ranging from more conservative to higher risk ones.
These portfolios are made up of exchange traded funds (ETFs) with exposure to indices such as US and global equities, fixed-income products like bonds, though exposure to real estate, commodity ETFs or gold is also possible.
Investing in ETFs allows robo-advisers to offer fees far lower than traditional investments, such as actively managed mutual funds bought through a bank or broker. Investors can buy ETFs directly via a brokerage, but with robo-advisers they benefit from investment portfolios matched to their risk tolerance as well as being user friendly.
Many robo-advisers charge what are called wrap fees, meaning there are no additional fees such as subscription or withdrawal fees, success fees or fees for rebalancing.
UPI facts
More than 2.2 million Indian tourists arrived in UAE in 2023
More than 3.5 million Indians reside in UAE
Indian tourists can make purchases in UAE using rupee accounts in India through QR-code-based UPI real-time payment systems
Indian residents in UAE can use their non-resident NRO and NRE accounts held in Indian banks linked to a UAE mobile number for UPI transactions
Cherry
Directed by: Joe and Anthony Russo
Starring: Tom Holland, Ciara Bravo
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How much sugar is in chocolate Easter eggs?
- The 169g Crunchie egg has 15.9g of sugar per 25g serving, working out at around 107g of sugar per egg
- The 190g Maltesers Teasers egg contains 58g of sugar per 100g for the egg and 19.6g of sugar in each of the two Teasers bars that come with it
- The 188g Smarties egg has 113g of sugar per egg and 22.8g in the tube of Smarties it contains
- The Milky Bar white chocolate Egg Hunt Pack contains eight eggs at 7.7g of sugar per egg
- The Cadbury Creme Egg contains 26g of sugar per 40g egg
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BIGGEST CYBER SECURITY INCIDENTS IN RECENT TIMES
SolarWinds supply chain attack: Came to light in December 2020 but had taken root for several months, compromising major tech companies, governments and its entities
Microsoft Exchange server exploitation: March 2021; attackers used a vulnerability to steal emails
Kaseya attack: July 2021; ransomware hit perpetrated REvil, resulting in severe downtime for more than 1,000 companies
Log4j breach: December 2021; attackers exploited the Java-written code to inflitrate businesses and governments
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