When my son was a baby, I used to sneak into his room at night to watch him sleep. I would rest my hand on his tiny back, and marvel at how perfectly my thumb would fit into the graceful indent at the base of his skull, at just that point where the skull balances on top of the spine. I knew he would grow up because that’s what all the parenting books said, but somehow, there in the dark listening to him breathe, I found it difficult to imagine.
Well, as predicted, that growing-up thing has happened; that spot where my thumb used to fit so perfectly is much bigger now, and were I to attempt such a caress in anything other than the most private of moments, I would get a groan, an eye-roll, and a “mom!” of protest.
The parenting books were right about the growing-up thing, but they neglected a key detail: no one told me about “the driving years”. This period starts about the time your child stops letting you hug him in public and stops (I hope) somewhere around the time he leaves for university.
The driving years sneak up on you: first it’s just the occasional football practice on the weekend; then it’s football and maybe rugby; then it’s football, rugby, art class and a stop at a friend’s house. Before you know it your entire Saturday has been spent behind the wheel of a car.
In Manhattan, where we lived before our children were old enough to publicly transport themselves, teenagers can take a bus or a train almost anywhere they want to go. For those occasions when public transport won’t work, a parent is pressed into action – or a taxi. The traffic in New York is so bad that the possibility of a serious traffic accident is fairly negligible. Here, of course, where even a trip to the grocery store can result in feeling like you’ve stumbled onto the set of Furious 7, a taxi ride seems like a riskier proposition.
The F1-wannabes who zoom around Abu Dhabi’s roads make me anxious about letting “my baby” take cabs. In some odd manifestation of parental protectiveness, I have decided that if my child is going to be in a traffic accident, I want to be at the wheel. I don’t want some unknown taxi or Uber driver to be responsible. I’m not sure my logic entirely makes sense – my teenager thinks I am utterly unreasonable – but so far I’m resisting his pleas that I change my mind.
My son’s adolescence has not only resulted in a lot more driving, it has also forced me to reconsider “the mall”. I am generally not a fan of shopping malls, but the adolescent need to be somewhere that is not home has driven me, as it were, to see malls in a different light. Malls offer a neutral “hangout” space: no parental oversight, no pesky siblings. “Hanging out” seems to be the primary verb of adolescence. I don’t know what it translates to in Arabic, but in my mind, I imagine malls full of rows of teenagers draped like wet laundry hanging out to dry.
I grumble as I drive from mall to mall (the soundtrack of the driving years: teenagers grunting in surly disdain; parents complaining). But then I wonder: What else could they do? There is only so much beach a person can handle before sunburn takes its toll, and Abu Dhabi doesn’t have a “high street” where kids can amble along poking in and out of shops and cafes.
With every new building that breaks ground, I have a moment of hope: an idea lab, maybe, or a media centre with gadgets and studios, perhaps a big library. And I think that maybe when the Saadiyat museums open, maybe the teenagers will decide to hang with the masterpieces, but that doesn’t solve the immediate problem.
Or perhaps these grunting teenagers would concede to hanging out, laundry-like, in the newly designed Mushrif Central Park, now that the weather is starting to cool down?
I wonder how long it will take me to drive there.
Deborah Lindsay Williams is a professor of literature at NYU Abu Dhabi
Yahya Al Ghassani's bio
Date of birth: April 18, 1998
Playing position: Winger
Clubs: 2015-2017 – Al Ahli Dubai; March-June 2018 – Paris FC; August – Al Wahda
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The biog
Favourite film: Motorcycle Dairies, Monsieur Hulot’s Holiday, Kagemusha
Favourite book: One Hundred Years of Solitude
Holiday destination: Sri Lanka
First car: VW Golf
Proudest achievement: Building Robotics Labs at Khalifa University and King’s College London, Daughters
Driverless cars or drones: Driverless Cars
COMPANY PROFILE
Name: Lamsa
Founder: Badr Ward
Launched: 2014
Employees: 60
Based: Abu Dhabi
Sector: EdTech
Funding to date: $15 million
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Mercer, the investment consulting arm of US services company Marsh & McLennan, expects its wealth division to at least double its assets under management (AUM) in the Middle East as wealth in the region continues to grow despite economic headwinds, a company official said.
Mercer Wealth, which globally has $160 billion in AUM, plans to boost its AUM in the region to $2-$3bn in the next 2-3 years from the present $1bn, said Yasir AbuShaban, a Dubai-based principal with Mercer Wealth.
“Within the next two to three years, we are looking at reaching $2 to $3 billion as a conservative estimate and we do see an opportunity to do so,” said Mr AbuShaban.
Mercer does not directly make investments, but allocates clients’ money they have discretion to, to professional asset managers. They also provide advice to clients.
“We have buying power. We can negotiate on their (client’s) behalf with asset managers to provide them lower fees than they otherwise would have to get on their own,” he added.
Mercer Wealth’s clients include sovereign wealth funds, family offices, and insurance companies among others.
From its office in Dubai, Mercer also looks after Africa, India and Turkey, where they also see opportunity for growth.
Wealth creation in Middle East and Africa (MEA) grew 8.5 per cent to $8.1 trillion last year from $7.5tn in 2015, higher than last year’s global average of 6 per cent and the second-highest growth in a region after Asia-Pacific which grew 9.9 per cent, according to consultancy Boston Consulting Group (BCG). In the region, where wealth grew just 1.9 per cent in 2015 compared with 2014, a pickup in oil prices has helped in wealth generation.
BCG is forecasting MEA wealth will rise to $12tn by 2021, growing at an annual average of 8 per cent.
Drivers of wealth generation in the region will be split evenly between new wealth creation and growth of performance of existing assets, according to BCG.
Another general trend in the region is clients’ looking for a comprehensive approach to investing, according to Mr AbuShaban.
“Institutional investors or some of the families are seeing a slowdown in the available capital they have to invest and in that sense they are looking at optimizing the way they manage their portfolios and making sure they are not investing haphazardly and different parts of their investment are working together,” said Mr AbuShaban.
Some clients also have a higher appetite for risk, given the low interest-rate environment that does not provide enough yield for some institutional investors. These clients are keen to invest in illiquid assets, such as private equity and infrastructure.
“What we have seen is a desire for higher returns in what has been a low-return environment specifically in various fixed income or bonds,” he said.
“In this environment, we have seen a de facto increase in the risk that clients are taking in things like illiquid investments, private equity investments, infrastructure and private debt, those kind of investments were higher illiquidity results in incrementally higher returns.”
The Abu Dhabi Investment Authority, one of the largest sovereign wealth funds, said in its 2016 report that has gradually increased its exposure in direct private equity and private credit transactions, mainly in Asian markets and especially in China and India. The authority’s private equity department focused on structured equities owing to “their defensive characteristics.”
Biography
Favourite book: Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance
Holiday choice: Anything Disney-related
Proudest achievement: Receiving a presidential award for foreign services.
Family: Wife and three children.
Like motto: You always get what you ask for, the universe listens.
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Going grey? A stylist's advice
If you’re going to go grey, a great style, well-cared for hair (in a sleek, classy style, like a bob), and a young spirit and attitude go a long way, says Maria Dowling, founder of the Maria Dowling Salon in Dubai.
It’s easier to go grey from a lighter colour, so you may want to do that first. And this is the time to try a shorter style, she advises. Then a stylist can introduce highlights, start lightening up the roots, and let it fade out. Once it’s entirely grey, a purple shampoo will prevent yellowing.
“Get professional help – there’s no other way to go around it,” she says. “And don’t just let it grow out because that looks really bad. Put effort into it: properly condition, straighten, get regular trims, make sure it’s glossy.”
ACL Elite (West) - fixtures
Monday, Sept 30
Al Sadd v Esteghlal (8pm)
Persepolis v Pakhtakor (8pm)
Al Wasl v Al Ahli (8pm)
Al Nassr v Al Rayyan (10pm)
Tuesday, Oct 1
Al Hilal v Al Shorta (10pm)
Al Gharafa v Al Ain (10pm)
if you go
The flights Fly Dubai, Air Arabia, Emirates, Etihad, and Royal Jordanian all offer direct, three-and-a-half-hour flights from the UAE to the Jordanian capital Amman. Alternatively, from June Fly Dubai will offer a new direct service from Dubai to Aqaba in the south of the country. See the airlines’ respective sites for varying prices or search on reliable price-comparison site Skyscanner.
The trip
Jamie Lafferty was a guest of the Jordan Tourist Board. For more information on adventure tourism in Jordan see Visit Jordan. A number of new and established tour companies offer the chance to go caving, rock-climbing, canyoning, and mountaineering in Jordan. Prices vary depending on how many activities you want to do and how many days you plan to stay in the country. Among the leaders are Terhaal, who offer a two-day canyoning trip from Dh845 per person. If you really want to push your limits, contact the Stronger Team. For a more trek-focused trip, KE Adventure offers an eight-day trip from Dh5,300 per person.
How much sugar is in chocolate Easter eggs?
- The 169g Crunchie egg has 15.9g of sugar per 25g serving, working out at around 107g of sugar per egg
- The 190g Maltesers Teasers egg contains 58g of sugar per 100g for the egg and 19.6g of sugar in each of the two Teasers bars that come with it
- The 188g Smarties egg has 113g of sugar per egg and 22.8g in the tube of Smarties it contains
- The Milky Bar white chocolate Egg Hunt Pack contains eight eggs at 7.7g of sugar per egg
- The Cadbury Creme Egg contains 26g of sugar per 40g egg
UPI facts
More than 2.2 million Indian tourists arrived in UAE in 2023
More than 3.5 million Indians reside in UAE
Indian tourists can make purchases in UAE using rupee accounts in India through QR-code-based UPI real-time payment systems
Indian residents in UAE can use their non-resident NRO and NRE accounts held in Indian banks linked to a UAE mobile number for UPI transactions
