There was a time when looking for love online was considered to be only for sad, lonely people. Oh, the shame of it! In some quarters, the idea of using strategy rather than serendipity was considered heartless and cold. Or, by contrast, when obeying familial edicts on whom and when to marry was something accepted as par for the course and choice was an unknown criterion.
Thankfully, those times are slowly passing. The strategic, self-confessed, self-directed search for a partner is a growing phenomenon. This has been helped in great part by dating and marriage apps. Chance is out the window and, instead, proactive choice is the rage. But amid the apps like Tinder and Happn, there’s another way of finding love that’s making headlines: halal speed dating.
An organisation in Malaysia has been gaining wide news coverage for its events aimed at bringing together Muslims seeking marriage in the hopes of finding their true match. It says it ensures that Islamic edicts are followed, so the woman’s guardian is present and all contact is supervised.
I’m surprised that this event has received global news coverage, or that it is news at all. After all, events of this sort for Muslims have been going on for over a decade. I wrote about my own experiences in the early noughties in my 2009 book about my search for love.
It seems that “halalifying” love still makes for big news. It’s a perfect storm of shock: young Muslims who want to uphold the tenets of their faith, but take personal choice in whom their partner will be; who want to be observant, but not use traditional methods of search; and for whom family connections and obedience are less important than securing a partner of similar values and outlook.
Malaysia is the country that has inspired the “Sorry Valetines, I’m Muslim” campaign, where young Muslims refuse to participate in the February 14 celebrations, so perhaps the profile of the halal speed dating event has captured imaginations, confirming that Muslims really do believe in looking for love.
But what I want to know is how far such initiatives will go towards erasing the power imbalance between men and women in the search for marriage that still persists in many Muslim cultures. Women are often disparaged for openly seeking marriage.
The results of these halal speed dating events are a case in point. The early events seem to have been dominated by women, a trend that is consistent around the world. Even the organisers seem horrified that one event had a ratio of three women to one man. The recent event that triggered all the coverage had 22 men to 27 women, although the age ranges seemed to be out of kilter: younger men, older women, the former not interested in the latter.
There was a time when women weren’t allowed to be openly interested in marriage, and if they openly demonstrated this desire, they were considered to be “desperate”.
Let’s hope that events that make men and women equal will eradicate this imbalance of power and shame, and give women a freer platform for seeking marriage.More importantly, they can establish that the idea of Muslims looking for love is just the norm. After all, Muslims want to be loved too.
Shelina Zahra Janmohamed is the author of Love in a Headscarf and blogs at www.spirit21.co.uk
Zidane's managerial achievements
La Liga: 2016/17
Spanish Super Cup: 2017
Uefa Champions League: 2015/16, 2016/17, 2017/18
Uefa Super Cup: 2016, 2017
Fifa Club World Cup: 2016, 2017
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Fixtures (all in UAE time)
Friday
Everton v Burnley 11pm
Saturday
Bournemouth v Tottenham Hotspur 3.30pm
West Ham United v Southampton 6pm
Wolves v Fulham 6pm
Cardiff City v Crystal Palace 8.30pm
Newcastle United v Liverpool 10.45pm
Sunday
Chelsea v Watford 5pm
Huddersfield v Manchester United 5pm
Arsenal v Brighton 7.30pm
Monday
Manchester City v Leicester City 11pm
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Stars: Basel Adra, Yuval Abraham
Rating: 3.5/5
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The Cairo Statement
1: Commit to countering all types of terrorism and extremism in all their manifestations
2: Denounce violence and the rhetoric of hatred
3: Adhere to the full compliance with the Riyadh accord of 2014 and the subsequent meeting and executive procedures approved in 2014 by the GCC
4: Comply with all recommendations of the Summit between the US and Muslim countries held in May 2017 in Saudi Arabia.
5: Refrain from interfering in the internal affairs of countries and of supporting rogue entities.
6: Carry out the responsibility of all the countries with the international community to counter all manifestations of extremism and terrorism that threaten international peace and security
Suggested picnic spots
Abu Dhabi
Umm Al Emarat Park
Yas Gateway Park
Delma Park
Al Bateen beach
Saadiyaat beach
The Corniche
Zayed Sports City
Dubai
Kite Beach
Zabeel Park
Al Nahda Pond Park
Mushrif Park
Safa Park
Al Mamzar Beach Park
Al Qudrah Lakes
How to wear a kandura
Dos
- Wear the right fabric for the right season and occasion
- Always ask for the dress code if you don’t know
- Wear a white kandura, white ghutra / shemagh (headwear) and black shoes for work
- Wear 100 per cent cotton under the kandura as most fabrics are polyester
Don’ts
- Wear hamdania for work, always wear a ghutra and agal
- Buy a kandura only based on how it feels; ask questions about the fabric and understand what you are buying
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2. Mario Mola (ESP) 57:09
3. Vincent Luis (FRA) 57:25
4. Leo Bergere (FRA)57:34
5. Jacob Birtwhistle (AUS) 57:40
6. Joao Silva (POR) 57:45
7. Jonathan Brownlee (GBR) 57:56
8. Adrien Briffod (SUI) 57:57
9. Gustav Iden (NOR) 57:58
10. Richard Murray (RSA) 57:59
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Ms Yang's top tips for parents new to the UAE
- Join parent networks
- Look beyond school fees
- Keep an open mind
Biog
Mr Kandhari is legally authorised to conduct marriages in the gurdwara
He has officiated weddings of Sikhs and people of different faiths from Malaysia, Sri Lanka, Russia, the US and Canada
Father of two sons, grandfather of six
Plays golf once a week
Enjoys trying new holiday destinations with his wife and family
Walks for an hour every morning
Completed a Bachelor of Commerce degree in Loyola College, Chennai, India
2019 is a milestone because he completes 50 years in business
What are NFTs?
Are non-fungible tokens a currency, asset, or a licensing instrument? Arnab Das, global market strategist EMEA at Invesco, says they are mix of all of three.
You can buy, hold and use NFTs just like US dollars and Bitcoins. “They can appreciate in value and even produce cash flows.”
However, while money is fungible, NFTs are not. “One Bitcoin, dollar, euro or dirham is largely indistinguishable from the next. Nothing ties a dollar bill to a particular owner, for example. Nor does it tie you to to any goods, services or assets you bought with that currency. In contrast, NFTs confer specific ownership,” Mr Das says.
This makes NFTs closer to a piece of intellectual property such as a work of art or licence, as you can claim royalties or profit by exchanging it at a higher value later, Mr Das says. “They could provide a sustainable income stream.”
This income will depend on future demand and use, which makes NFTs difficult to value. “However, there is a credible use case for many forms of intellectual property, notably art, songs, videos,” Mr Das says.
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