Few places on the planet have witnessed such dramatic and rapid socio-cultural transition as the UAE. Fuelled by revenues from tourism, commerce and of course petroleum, we have raced forward, embracing modernity and occasionally trading good habits for bad.
One area where this is most evident, and arguably most damaging, is in the increased reliance on domestic staff to raise Emirati children. In the 1980s, large families were the norm with the number of children often ranging from six to eight. Extended families typically lived together and, while child rearing was primarily the role of the mother, the loving help and support of grandmothers and other family members was often available. In such an environment, children naturally absorbed traditional values and, in most cases, received plenty of familial attention and tender care.
However, in recent years, we have seen a slow shift from our traditional extended family structure to a rather alien and individualistic nuclear family structure. This fragmentation of the extended family has gone hand in hand with the dependence, even over-dependence, on housemaids to rear and take care of children. The Emirati grandmother has been displaced by hired hands from around the globe.
There are many problems with this scenario. While many maids genuinely care for their charges, in too many cases unqualified and overworked foreign women are given almost total responsibility for the development of young minds. In addition to housekeeping duties, maids are called upon to attend to children's social, intellectual and emotional needs.
This trend troubles me, and I decided to explore it by conducting a survey of my peers. The first set of concerns focused on potential negative social effects, such as children becoming socially withdrawn and avoiding interaction. This is associated with issues of cultural identity formation, with some respondents fearing that children might lose their own cultural and perhaps even religious identity, acquiring instead that of their caregivers.
The second category of responses related essentially to emotional factors. The chief point was that the unique and treasured bond between a mother and her child is weakened by the intervention of a permanent secondary caregiver. Many feared that children would develop an attachment to the housemaid rather than the mother.
There have been decades of psychological research into the attachment of young infants - the bottom line suggests disrupted early life attachment experiences can result in enduring emotional and relational problems in later life. Imagine the child who forms a strong attachment to a maid who then leaves. In such a case, even children as old as six can develop separation anxiety.
The third category could best be described as behavioural disturbance. Over-reliance on hired caregivers was associated with increased aggression, rebellion and generally disruptive and defiant behaviours. One respondent described a young relative who insisted on performing Buddhist prayers.
Respondents also emphasised children's Arab language abilities. Many reported a clear deterioration in their accent and ability to pronounce Arabic words. One young woman told a story about her seven-year-old cousin who was unable to pronounce his own name correctly, calling himself "Mokhammed".
Sixty-three per cent of respondents disapproved of domestic staff raising Emirati children; however, 96 per cent had maids caring for children in their own homes. This is a classical case of what psychologists call "cognitive dissonance": two things that just do not go together.
So what are the reasons? Tough decisions about jobs and education were mentioned. Many also cited the desire for a "lavish" lifestyle.
This over-reliance on domestic help is particularly problematic as it has implications for the future of our nation, our national identity and even our health. The eminent British psychiatrist John Bowlby, an authority on the consequences of "maternal deprivation", proposed: "Mother love in infancy and childhood is as important for mental health as are vitamins and proteins are for physical health." Are housemaids an equally adequate supplement?
Meera al Mutawa is a health sciences student at Zayed University
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U19 WORLD CUP, WEST INDIES
UAE group fixtures (all in St Kitts)
- Saturday 15 January: UAE beat Canada by 49 runs
- Thursday 20 January: v England
- Saturday 22 January: v Bangladesh
UAE squad:
Alishan Sharafu (captain), Shival Bawa, Jash Giyanani, Sailles
Jaishankar, Nilansh Keswani, Aayan Khan, Punya Mehra, Ali Naseer, Ronak Panoly,
Dhruv Parashar, Vinayak Raghavan, Soorya Sathish, Aryansh Sharma, Adithya
Shetty, Kai Smith
Specs
Engine: Dual-motor all-wheel-drive electric
Range: Up to 610km
Power: 905hp
Torque: 985Nm
Price: From Dh439,000
Available: Now
The specs
Engine: 2.5-litre, turbocharged 5-cylinder
Transmission: seven-speed auto
Power: 400hp
Torque: 500Nm
Price: Dh300,000 (estimate)
On sale: 2022
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ELIO
Starring: Yonas Kibreab, Zoe Saldana, Brad Garrett
Directors: Madeline Sharafian, Domee Shi, Adrian Molina
Rating: 4/5
Indika
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Essentials
The flights
Emirates flies direct from Dubai to Seattle from Dh6,755 return in economy and Dh24,775 in business class.
The cruise
UnCruise Adventures offers a variety of small-ship cruises in Alaska and around the world. A 14-day Alaska’s Inside Passage and San Juans Cruise from Seattle to Juneau or reverse costs from $4,695 (Dh17,246), including accommodation, food and most activities. Trips in 2019 start in April and run until September.
UAE central contracts
Full time contracts
Rohan Mustafa, Ahmed Raza, Mohammed Usman, Chirag Suri, Mohammed Boota, Sultan Ahmed, Zahoor Khan, Junaid Siddique, Waheed Ahmed, Zawar Farid
Part time contracts
Aryan Lakra, Ansh Tandon, Karthik Meiyappan, Rahul Bhatia, Alishan Sharafu, CP Rizwaan, Basil Hameed, Matiullah, Fahad Nawaz, Sanchit Sharma
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UK-EU trade at a glance
EU fishing vessels guaranteed access to UK waters for 12 years
Co-operation on security initiatives and procurement of defence products
Youth experience scheme to work, study or volunteer in UK and EU countries
Smoother border management with use of e-gates
Cutting red tape on import and export of food
Our legal consultant
Name: Dr Hassan Mohsen Elhais
Position: legal consultant with Al Rowaad Advocates and Legal Consultants.
UAE currency: the story behind the money in your pockets
MATCH INFO
Uefa Champions League, semi-final result:
Liverpool 4-0 Barcelona
Liverpool win 4-3 on aggregate
Champions Legaue final: June 1, Madrid
The specs
Engine: Four electric motors, one at each wheel
Power: 579hp
Torque: 859Nm
Transmission: Single-speed automatic
Price: From Dh825,900
On sale: Now
The language of diplomacy in 1853
Treaty of Peace in Perpetuity Agreed Upon by the Chiefs of the Arabian Coast on Behalf of Themselves, Their Heirs and Successors Under the Mediation of the Resident of the Persian Gulf, 1853
(This treaty gave the region the name “Trucial States”.)
We, whose seals are hereunto affixed, Sheikh Sultan bin Suggar, Chief of Rassool-Kheimah, Sheikh Saeed bin Tahnoon, Chief of Aboo Dhebbee, Sheikh Saeed bin Buyte, Chief of Debay, Sheikh Hamid bin Rashed, Chief of Ejman, Sheikh Abdoola bin Rashed, Chief of Umm-ool-Keiweyn, having experienced for a series of years the benefits and advantages resulting from a maritime truce contracted amongst ourselves under the mediation of the Resident in the Persian Gulf and renewed from time to time up to the present period, and being fully impressed, therefore, with a sense of evil consequence formerly arising, from the prosecution of our feuds at sea, whereby our subjects and dependants were prevented from carrying on the pearl fishery in security, and were exposed to interruption and molestation when passing on their lawful occasions, accordingly, we, as aforesaid have determined, for ourselves, our heirs and successors, to conclude together a lasting and inviolable peace from this time forth in perpetuity.
Taken from Britain and Saudi Arabia, 1925-1939: the Imperial Oasis, by Clive Leatherdale
David Haye record
Total fights: 32
Wins: 28
Wins by KO: 26
Losses: 4
The Perfect Couple
Starring: Nicole Kidman, Liev Schreiber, Jack Reynor
Creator: Jenna Lamia
Rating: 3/5
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Suggested picnic spots
Abu Dhabi
Umm Al Emarat Park
Yas Gateway Park
Delma Park
Al Bateen beach
Saadiyaat beach
The Corniche
Zayed Sports City
Dubai
Kite Beach
Zabeel Park
Al Nahda Pond Park
Mushrif Park
Safa Park
Al Mamzar Beach Park
Al Qudrah Lakes
The essentials
What: Emirates Airline Festival of Literature
When: Friday until March 9
Where: All main sessions are held in the InterContinental Dubai Festival City
Price: Sessions range from free entry to Dh125 tickets, with the exception of special events.
Hot Tip: If waiting for your book to be signed looks like it will be timeconsuming, ask the festival’s bookstore if they have pre-signed copies of the book you’re looking for. They should have a bunch from some of the festival’s biggest guest authors.
Information: www.emirateslitfest.com
Zayed Sustainability Prize
Key facilities
- Olympic-size swimming pool with a split bulkhead for multi-use configurations, including water polo and 50m/25m training lanes
- Premier League-standard football pitch
- 400m Olympic running track
- NBA-spec basketball court with auditorium
- 600-seat auditorium
- Spaces for historical and cultural exploration
- An elevated football field that doubles as a helipad
- Specialist robotics and science laboratories
- AR and VR-enabled learning centres
- Disruption Lab and Research Centre for developing entrepreneurial skills
Volvo ES90 Specs
Engine: Electric single motor (96kW), twin motor (106kW) and twin motor performance (106kW)
Power: 333hp, 449hp, 680hp
Torque: 480Nm, 670Nm, 870Nm
On sale: Later in 2025 or early 2026, depending on region
Price: Exact regional pricing TBA
Tips for job-seekers
- Do not submit your application through the Easy Apply button on LinkedIn. Employers receive between 600 and 800 replies for each job advert on the platform. If you are the right fit for a job, connect to a relevant person in the company on LinkedIn and send them a direct message.
- Make sure you are an exact fit for the job advertised. If you are an HR manager with five years’ experience in retail and the job requires a similar candidate with five years’ experience in consumer, you should apply. But if you have no experience in HR, do not apply for the job.
David Mackenzie, founder of recruitment agency Mackenzie Jones Middle East
