Are you dealing with a critic or a cynic? This the key question when it comes to knowing how to handle the feedback you might receive when on an endeavour – business or personal – according to Deepak Chopra, the well-being expert and medical doctor.
“There's a difference between critics and cynics. A critic says ‘Show me’. Cynics don’t even want to be shown,” Dr Chopra told me last week on the The National’s Business Extra podcast.
These days, with so much noise around us, all the time, it is especially important to stop and ask the question: cynic or critic?
Trust has been eroded and cynicism is rampant – understandably, given the false narratives we have experienced going back to the 2003 US-led invasion of Iraq and through the financial crisis of 2008-2009 and Brexit in 2016.
What should leaders then do? Especially as it seems as if people don’t care if you might be right, only that you validate their feelings and concerns.
The 2022 Fifa World Cup in Qatar offers instruction and is a fitting arena to observe the premise there is a line between criticism and cynicism. Nothing draws opprobrium and praise quite like elite competitive sport presented on a global stage. During the group stages, there have been plenty of flashpoints between competitors – even off the pitch – both before and after games have been played.
After their 4-1 win over Canada, Croatia coach Zlatko Dalic said his Canadian counterpart John Herdman refused to shake hands, for example. Gareth Southgate told his England players to ignore the boos following a 0-0 draw against the USA. And Iran's national team coach Carlos Queiroz and Jurgen Klinsmann have had a public argument in the media over comments by German football legend about the footballing culture of Iran and central American countries. Much of this discourse is counter-productive for all involved.
Dalic said of Herdman: “I did not see the other head coach after the match. Whether I lose or win, I always congratulate the other head coach. He wasn’t there and that’s his way of doing things. He’s obviously mad. He is a good coach, he is a high-quality professional, but it will take some time for him to learn some things.”
With so much noise around us all the time, it is especially important to stop and ask the question: cynic or critic?
Pre-match Herdman had claimed his team would beat Croatia. After the loss he was a little less emotional.
“I could have been a little more composed coming out of the huddle. That is my learning. I will take that on the chin.”
Three very different approaches there; Dalic waiting for the upper hand before responding; Southgate shutting out the noise; Queroz going on the offensive. Which works best?
“If you are convinced, and you have the expertise, then you have to be immune to criticism, but still responsive to feedback, which means don't get personally offended,“ Dr Chopra advised.
Ultimately, Iran lost to the US and were out of the tournament. England went on to win their next match against Wales.
There was an emotional aspect in the build up to the Iran-USA game, which may have created extra pressure. It is the emotion related to criticism, which is the most difficult aspect to step away from. Dr Chopra said that being able to recognise this can be the difference between a productive and counter-productive experience.
“I realised that if I was going to respond to critics, I would be offended for the rest of my life. I didn't want to live like that,” he said.
As we head into 2023, the noise will only grow as issues beyond competitive sport such as policy on climate action, human rights, public health, the economy, censorship, job creation and diversity take on even more urgency. At the World Cup, we are reaching the stage when every match is a must-win. In everything else in life now, the stakes are even higher. How should leaders, executives and entrepreneurs handle this charged atmosphere? How should those looking to make things better respond?
After all, criticism – internal and external – can be valuable. No one can make progress in a bubble.
“I still heard them…I heard them for their feedback,” Dr Chopra said.
However, it can be a bitter lesson when your criticism (or cynicism) comes back to bite you, as coach Herdman experienced.
Dr Chopra suggested: “Don't be cynical, be sceptical. That's a good thing. Science is based on scepticism. And so is philosophy.”
There is a larger warning for individuals though.
“Cynical mistrust is the number one risk factor psychologically for premature death from cardiovascular disease,” Dr Chopra said.
What can victims do?
Always use only regulated platforms
Stop all transactions and communication on suspicion
Save all evidence (screenshots, chat logs, transaction IDs)
Report to local authorities
Warn others to prevent further harm
Courtesy: Crystal Intelligence
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Going grey? A stylist's advice
If you’re going to go grey, a great style, well-cared for hair (in a sleek, classy style, like a bob), and a young spirit and attitude go a long way, says Maria Dowling, founder of the Maria Dowling Salon in Dubai.
It’s easier to go grey from a lighter colour, so you may want to do that first. And this is the time to try a shorter style, she advises. Then a stylist can introduce highlights, start lightening up the roots, and let it fade out. Once it’s entirely grey, a purple shampoo will prevent yellowing.
“Get professional help – there’s no other way to go around it,” she says. “And don’t just let it grow out because that looks really bad. Put effort into it: properly condition, straighten, get regular trims, make sure it’s glossy.”
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The chef's advice
Troy Payne, head chef at Abu Dhabi’s newest healthy eatery Sanderson’s in Al Seef Resort & Spa, says singles need to change their mindset about how they approach the supermarket.
“They feel like they can’t buy one cucumber,” he says. “But I can walk into a shop – I feed two people at home – and I’ll walk into a shop and I buy one cucumber, I’ll buy one onion.”
Mr Payne asks for the sticker to be placed directly on each item, rather than face the temptation of filling one of the two-kilogram capacity plastic bags on offer.
The chef also advises singletons not get too hung up on “organic”, particularly high-priced varieties that have been flown in from far-flung locales. Local produce is often grown sustainably, and far cheaper, he says.
UPI facts
More than 2.2 million Indian tourists arrived in UAE in 2023
More than 3.5 million Indians reside in UAE
Indian tourists can make purchases in UAE using rupee accounts in India through QR-code-based UPI real-time payment systems
Indian residents in UAE can use their non-resident NRO and NRE accounts held in Indian banks linked to a UAE mobile number for UPI transactions
Islamophobia definition
A widely accepted definition was made by the All Party Parliamentary Group on British Muslims in 2019: “Islamophobia is rooted in racism and is a type of racism that targets expressions of Muslimness or perceived Muslimness.” It further defines it as “inciting hatred or violence against Muslims”.
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BIOSAFETY LABS SECURITY LEVELS
Biosafety Level 1
The lowest safety level. These labs work with viruses that are minimal risk to humans.
Hand washing is required on entry and exit and potentially infectious material decontaminated with bleach before thrown away.
Must have a lock. Access limited. Lab does not need to be isolated from other buildings.
Used as teaching spaces.
Study microorganisms such as Staphylococcus which causes food poisoning.
Biosafety Level 2
These labs deal with pathogens that can be harmful to people and the environment such as Hepatitis, HIV and salmonella.
Working in Level 2 requires special training in handling pathogenic agents.
Extra safety and security precautions are taken in addition to those at Level 1
Biosafety Level 3
These labs contain material that can be lethal if inhaled. This includes SARS coronavirus, MERS, and yellow fever.
Significant extra precautions are taken with staff given specific immunisations when dealing with certain diseases.
Infectious material is examined in a biological safety cabinet.
Personnel must wear protective gowns that must be discarded or decontaminated after use.
Strict safety and handling procedures are in place. There must be double entrances to the building and they must contain self-closing doors to reduce risk of pathogen aerosols escaping.
Windows must be sealed. Air from must be filtered before it can be recirculated.
Biosafety Level 4
The highest level for biosafety precautions. Scientist work with highly dangerous diseases that have no vaccine or cure.
All material must be decontaminated.
Personnel must wear a positive pressure suit for protection. On leaving the lab this must pass through decontamination shower before they have a personal shower.
Entry is severely restricted to trained and authorised personnel. All entries are recorded.
Entrance must be via airlocks.
EMERGENCY PHONE NUMBERS
Estijaba – 8001717 – number to call to request coronavirus testing
Ministry of Health and Prevention – 80011111
Dubai Health Authority – 800342 – The number to book a free video or voice consultation with a doctor or connect to a local health centre
Emirates airline – 600555555
Etihad Airways – 600555666
Ambulance – 998
Knowledge and Human Development Authority – 8005432 ext. 4 for Covid-19 queries
Key findings of Jenkins report
- Founder of the Muslim Brotherhood, Hassan al Banna, "accepted the political utility of violence"
- Views of key Muslim Brotherhood ideologue, Sayyid Qutb, have “consistently been understood” as permitting “the use of extreme violence in the pursuit of the perfect Islamic society” and “never been institutionally disowned” by the movement.
- Muslim Brotherhood at all levels has repeatedly defended Hamas attacks against Israel, including the use of suicide bombers and the killing of civilians.
- Laying out the report in the House of Commons, David Cameron told MPs: "The main findings of the review support the conclusion that membership of, association with, or influence by the Muslim Brotherhood should be considered as a possible indicator of extremism."
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Gifts exchanged
- King Charles - replica of President Eisenhower Sword
- Queen Camilla - Tiffany & Co vintage 18-carat gold, diamond and ruby flower brooch
- Donald Trump - hand-bound leather book with Declaration of Independence
- Melania Trump - personalised Anya Hindmarch handbag
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Ahmed Saadawi
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The five pillars of Islam
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Another way to earn air miles
In addition to the Emirates and Etihad programmes, there is the Air Miles Middle East card, which offers members the ability to choose any airline, has no black-out dates and no restrictions on seat availability. Air Miles is linked up to HSBC credit cards and can also be earned through retail partners such as Spinneys, Sharaf DG and The Toy Store.
An Emirates Dubai-London round-trip ticket costs 180,000 miles on the Air Miles website. But customers earn these ‘miles’ at a much faster rate than airline miles. Adidas offers two air miles per Dh1 spent. Air Miles has partnerships with websites as well, so booking.com and agoda.com offer three miles per Dh1 spent.
“If you use your HSBC credit card when shopping at our partners, you are able to earn Air Miles twice which will mean you can get that flight reward faster and for less spend,” says Paul Lacey, the managing director for Europe, Middle East and India for Aimia, which owns and operates Air Miles Middle East.
MATCH INFO
Fixture: Ukraine v Portugal, Monday, 10.45pm (UAE)
TV: BeIN Sports
Terror attacks in Paris, November 13, 2015
- At 9.16pm, three suicide attackers killed one person outside the Atade de France during a foootball match between France and Germany
- At 9.25pm, three attackers opened fire on restaurants and cafes over 20 minutes, killing 39 people
- Shortly after 9.40pm, three other attackers launched a three-hour raid on the Bataclan, in which 1,500 people had gathered to watch a rock concert. In total, 90 people were killed
- Salah Abdeslam, the only survivor of the terrorists, did not directly participate in the attacks, thought to be due to a technical glitch in his suicide vest
- He fled to Belgium and was involved in attacks on Brussels in March 2016. He is serving a life sentence in France