The author's father arrived in the UAE in May 1975. The red stamp on the top right marks his entry into the country. Courtesy Manal Ataya
The author's father arrived in the UAE in May 1975. The red stamp on the top right marks his entry into the country. Courtesy Manal Ataya
The author's father arrived in the UAE in May 1975. The red stamp on the top right marks his entry into the country. Courtesy Manal Ataya
The author's father arrived in the UAE in May 1975. The red stamp on the top right marks his entry into the country. Courtesy Manal Ataya


How the Emirates helped my family find the courage to start over


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December 02, 2021

I was born in Dubai in 1979, four years after my parents landed at Dubai Airport. My father was beaming with excitement to be back home in the Middle East after a few years as a student in the US. And yet from all the choices he could have made, his ambition brought him to a newly formed UAE that was opening its doors to talent. The country was as eager to build and shape new cities as it was to shape the minds of a growing local population and of the immigrant population that was slowly streaming in.

Those who entered the country in the '70s realised that the UAE was not conveying fantasies, but articulating future realities that were monumental in scope and scale from the onset. The UAE leadership has stayed true to an ethos of exponential growth in all areas for the past 50 years and it has proven fundamental to its current success regionally and globally.

As a young Arab engineer who wanted to return to the Middle East, my father knew it was his destiny to carve his life on UAE soil and it never faltered. He would set up his company which he ran for 45 years.

He was not just an engineer by trade – it was at the core of his being. His essence was that of a builder and an architect. And for that very reason not only did he build actual structures enthusiastically, but poured that same enthusiasm into an incessant need to build a family of his own, and to design his career and our future on his own terms. For he aspired to be the greatest architect of his own life, motivated by overwhelming circumstances of the past, including forced displacement and being part of the Palestinian diaspora.

My mother was his perfect life companion; she was a builder of minds, and with her degree in education, she enjoyed a long, fulfilling career teaching and shaping young minds in my high school in Dubai, where, with her stance of tough-but-fair love, she remained loved by those she taught, encouraged and supported. Similar to my father, she would proudly see what she helped build often come to fruition when she would meet many of her former students again, handing them their university degrees, as her career would take her to her current post as the founding registrar at the American University in Sharjah in 1997.

My father embraced the UAE's vision and leadership because he wanted his family to have what the UAE wanted to provide; safety, stability, education and opportunity. Whether you wish to see his story as intention or happenstance, this is where my father decided to plant his new roots, ready for the exhilarating journey of potential that lay ahead in a small country in the Gulf. From that moment on, he relished talking about his projects with us, describing building floor by floor until his high-rise tower was complete, erected where only sand had been, as this to him was a tangible monument to a magical moment.

And magic is often a feeling people describe when they come visit or live in the UAE, as there is undisputed, powerful energy surging through its emirates and a constant sense of renewal, whether visible in the urban environment or in the diversity of people that continually come to the UAE to fulfil their ambitions, making this country their home.

Many readers of this paper may have only lived in the UAE a few months or a few years, but a unique category will have lived here their entire lives, being of an age range where they were acutely aware of the changes in the UAE’s formative years and had a front row seat to witnessing what the country was and is today, thereby confident of its bright future.

It a very particular feeling of pride when you can be a part of something larger than yourself

But for many, like myself, the eyes have seen and the heart has felt the changes of over 30 years, which I recall vividly as I grew up. Few statements do justice to describing the idiosyncratic nature of the extraordinary evolution and transformation of this nation and, most importantly, how it impacted the lives of generations of families by giving them hope and happiness.

I have chosen to write this personal story because this 50th anniversary carries so much meaning for me and my family history. We were blessed by the ambitions and values of the UAE which enabled many to thrive and give their families the best possible future.

It has been 10 years since Sheikh Mohammed bin Rashid, Vice President and Ruler of Dubai, launched UAE Vision 2021 in a cabinet meeting in 2010. For some it may be an irrelevant date, but I know where I was and how I felt. I was a young woman, early in my position as director of museums in Sharjah, grateful for the opportunity I was given, and consequently found myself continuing a family tradition as I became a builder of sorts myself.

I would play a pivotal role in establishing a cultural institution (now 15 years old) from the ground up, and begin working on building numerous new museum projects from concept to completion over the next 10 years, under the guidance of the Ruler of Sharjah, Sheikh Dr Sultan bin Muhammad Al Qasimi.

It is a very special feeling of pride when you can be a part of something larger than yourself, nurturing it daily, knowing that you are contributing something meaningful for generations of people, who will be forever enriched by the cultural opportunities you offer to enjoy, learn and experience.

The greatest value the UAE has given my parents, family and me, by far, is that of courage, to build something substantial and real when you find yourself one of the first few at the starting line.

School counsellors on mental well-being

Schools counsellors in Abu Dhabi have put a number of provisions in place to help support pupils returning to the classroom next week.

Many children will resume in-person lessons for the first time in 10 months and parents previously raised concerns about the long-term effects of distance learning.

Schools leaders and counsellors said extra support will be offered to anyone that needs it. Additionally, heads of years will be on hand to offer advice or coping mechanisms to ease any concerns.

“Anxiety this time round has really spiralled, more so than from the first lockdown at the beginning of the pandemic,” said Priya Mitchell, counsellor at The British School Al Khubairat in Abu Dhabi.

“Some have got used to being at home don’t want to go back, while others are desperate to get back.

“We have seen an increase in depressive symptoms, especially with older pupils, and self-harm is starting younger.

“It is worrying and has taught us how important it is that we prioritise mental well-being.”

Ms Mitchell said she was liaising more with heads of year so they can support and offer advice to pupils if the demand is there.

The school will also carry out mental well-being checks so they can pick up on any behavioural patterns and put interventions in place to help pupils.

At Raha International School, the well-being team has provided parents with assessment surveys to see how they can support students at home to transition back to school.

“They have created a Well-being Resource Bank that parents have access to on information on various domains of mental health for students and families,” a team member said.

“Our pastoral team have been working with students to help ease the transition and reduce anxiety that [pupils] may experience after some have been nearly a year off campus.

"Special secondary tutorial classes have also focused on preparing students for their return; going over new guidelines, expectations and daily schedules.”

Quick pearls of wisdom

Focus on gratitude: And do so deeply, he says. “Think of one to three things a day that you’re grateful for. It needs to be specific, too, don’t just say ‘air.’ Really think about it. If you’re grateful for, say, what your parents have done for you, that will motivate you to do more for the world.”

Know how to fight: Shetty married his wife, Radhi, three years ago (he met her in a meditation class before he went off and became a monk). He says they’ve had to learn to respect each other’s “fighting styles” – he’s a talk it-out-immediately person, while she needs space to think. “When you’re having an argument, remember, it’s not you against each other. It’s both of you against the problem. When you win, they lose. If you’re on a team you have to win together.” 

Updated: December 02, 2021, 9:09 AM