At low tide, the beach where we rent a house for a few weeks in August is long and flat, with big waves crashing on a sand bar just off the beach. It’s a perfect beach for playing in the surf, building sandcastles and long walks. On the first day of vacation every year, a deep sense of peace washes over me as I crest the dune to the beach. This year, in light of the horrifying events that fill the newspapers every morning – natural disasters, disease, war – the beach feels even more like a refuge.
The other day, my sons spent the entire afternoon on this marvellous beach creating a sandcastle. Actually, it was more than a castle; it was a sprawling city with moats and towers, tunnels and arches. The boys’ creative energy was contagious and for a while a small group of children – all strangers to one another – congregated to work on this sandy project, each adding a piece to the city. There was a Gaudi-esque castle in one corner, a set of steps carved down to a “lake” in another section, and an elaborate fresco of shells and seaweed along the front wall. By the time everyone got bored and ran off to bodysurf in the waves, the sand-city must have stretched at least a metre across.
I sat in my beach chair watching the children work together and had one of those smug parenting moments that by now I should know not to entertain. “Look at my kids,” I thought, “working so well together and including all the other kids. Aren’t they wonderful?” Famous last words.
By late afternoon, after a long frolic in the waves, and a little too much sun, we were ready to head for home. That’s when my younger son asked the fateful question: could he stomp on the sandcastle? I remembered that sense of power from my childhood, the pleasure of feeling the sand yield under my feet, so I said: “Yes, go ahead.” I forgot about the older boy and the fact that he might have a stake in preserving the castle, even though we were going home and the tide would most certainly roll in and flatten everything anyway.
Younger son began stomping, older son began screaming. Older brother whacked younger brother with a boogie-board. Younger brother said some very bad words and kicked older brother, who hurled back some choice insults of his own. More indiscriminate hitting ensued and then each child stomped to his own piece of beach.
There were no more wonderful children working together. There were two quiveringly angry children, each convinced not only of his own righteousness but also of his victimhood. Fingers were pointed: he started it! No, he started it! I fell back on that time-honoured, and useless, piece of parental commentary: I didn’t care who started it, I wanted them to stop hitting each other and apologise. It takes two to quarrel, I said, so you’re each a little bit at fault.
They stared at me as if I had two heads. In childhood, there is always a good guy and a bad guy; sharing blame and responsibility is as difficult as sharing a chocolate bar or an ice-cream cone. Younger brother yelled that we were leaving anyway so who cared, but then he half-heartedly rebuilt the section of castle wall he’d demolished. Older brother, indignant, said it didn’t matter. “You’re only doing that because Mom got mad. You’re not really sorry.”
I suggested that perhaps the motivation for the rebuilding didn’t matter, only the end result, but older brother was not persuaded. “He shouldn’t have jumped on the castle in the first place,” he insisted. “He should have stopped when I asked him to, and he kicked me, and swore at me, and I’m furious. I’m not going to forgive him until I’m ready.”
What do you say to that? My parental bag of tricks doesn’t include any strategies for forcing forgiveness, other than outright bribery, which would seem to defeat the purpose. Unless, of course, the motivation for forgiveness shouldn’t matter, only the act of letting go.
Younger brother spent the next few hours moping in the shade of his brother’s discontent, waiting for him to relent, which he did, eventually. Neither boy ever actually apologised to the other and today they’re talking about building another sandcastle. Should I care that they didn’t actually apologise, if they are willing to try again to work together? I don’t know. But somewhere in this story, I’m pretty sure there’s a metaphor. Maybe even two or three.
Deborah Lindsay Williams is a professor of literature at NYU Abu Dhabi. Her novel The Time Locket (written as Deborah Quinn) is now available on Amazon
Key facilities
- Olympic-size swimming pool with a split bulkhead for multi-use configurations, including water polo and 50m/25m training lanes
- Premier League-standard football pitch
- 400m Olympic running track
- NBA-spec basketball court with auditorium
- 600-seat auditorium
- Spaces for historical and cultural exploration
- An elevated football field that doubles as a helipad
- Specialist robotics and science laboratories
- AR and VR-enabled learning centres
- Disruption Lab and Research Centre for developing entrepreneurial skills
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Real estate tokenisation project
Dubai launched the pilot phase of its real estate tokenisation project last month.
The initiative focuses on converting real estate assets into digital tokens recorded on blockchain technology and helps in streamlining the process of buying, selling and investing, the Dubai Land Department said.
Dubai’s real estate tokenisation market is projected to reach Dh60 billion ($16.33 billion) by 2033, representing 7 per cent of the emirate’s total property transactions, according to the DLD.
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Company Profile
Name: Thndr
Started: 2019
Co-founders: Ahmad Hammouda and Seif Amr
Sector: FinTech
Headquarters: Egypt
UAE base: Hub71, Abu Dhabi
Current number of staff: More than 150
Funds raised: $22 million
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The smuggler
Eldarir had arrived at JFK in January 2020 with three suitcases, containing goods he valued at $300, when he was directed to a search area.
Officers found 41 gold artefacts among the bags, including amulets from a funerary set which prepared the deceased for the afterlife.
Also found was a cartouche of a Ptolemaic king on a relief that was originally part of a royal building or temple.
The largest single group of items found in Eldarir’s cases were 400 shabtis, or figurines.
Khouli conviction
Khouli smuggled items into the US by making false declarations to customs about the country of origin and value of the items.
According to Immigration and Customs Enforcement, he provided “false provenances which stated that [two] Egyptian antiquities were part of a collection assembled by Khouli's father in Israel in the 1960s” when in fact “Khouli acquired the Egyptian antiquities from other dealers”.
He was sentenced to one year of probation, six months of home confinement and 200 hours of community service in 2012 after admitting buying and smuggling Egyptian antiquities, including coffins, funerary boats and limestone figures.
For sale
A number of other items said to come from the collection of Ezeldeen Taha Eldarir are currently or recently for sale.
Their provenance is described in near identical terms as the British Museum shabti: bought from Salahaddin Sirmali, "authenticated and appraised" by Hossen Rashed, then imported to the US in 1948.
- An Egyptian Mummy mask dating from 700BC-30BC, is on offer for £11,807 ($15,275) online by a seller in Mexico
- A coffin lid dating back to 664BC-332BC was offered for sale by a Colorado-based art dealer, with a starting price of $65,000
- A shabti that was on sale through a Chicago-based coin dealer, dating from 1567BC-1085BC, is up for $1,950
Test
Director: S Sashikanth
Cast: Nayanthara, Siddharth, Meera Jasmine, R Madhavan
Star rating: 2/5
Tell Me Who I Am
Director: Ed Perkins
Stars: Alex and Marcus Lewis
Four stars
Biog
Age: 50
Known as the UAE’s strongest man
Favourite dish: “Everything and sea food”
Hobbies: Drawing, basketball and poetry
Favourite car: Any classic car
Favourite superhero: The Hulk original
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The bio
Studied up to grade 12 in Vatanappally, a village in India’s southern Thrissur district
Was a middle distance state athletics champion in school
Enjoys driving to Fujairah and Ras Al Khaimah with family
His dream is to continue working as a social worker and help people
Has seven diaries in which he has jotted down notes about his work and money he earned
Keeps the diaries in his car to remember his journey in the Emirates
UPI facts
More than 2.2 million Indian tourists arrived in UAE in 2023
More than 3.5 million Indians reside in UAE
Indian tourists can make purchases in UAE using rupee accounts in India through QR-code-based UPI real-time payment systems
Indian residents in UAE can use their non-resident NRO and NRE accounts held in Indian banks linked to a UAE mobile number for UPI transactions
COMPANY PROFILE
Name: Kumulus Water
Started: 2021
Founders: Iheb Triki and Mohamed Ali Abid
Based: Tunisia
Sector: Water technology
Number of staff: 22
Investment raised: $4 million
How to wear a kandura
Dos
- Wear the right fabric for the right season and occasion
- Always ask for the dress code if you don’t know
- Wear a white kandura, white ghutra / shemagh (headwear) and black shoes for work
- Wear 100 per cent cotton under the kandura as most fabrics are polyester
Don’ts
- Wear hamdania for work, always wear a ghutra and agal
- Buy a kandura only based on how it feels; ask questions about the fabric and understand what you are buying
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Living in...
This article is part of a guide on where to live in the UAE. Our reporters will profile some of the country’s most desirable districts, provide an estimate of rental prices and introduce you to some of the residents who call each area home.
How much sugar is in chocolate Easter eggs?
- The 169g Crunchie egg has 15.9g of sugar per 25g serving, working out at around 107g of sugar per egg
- The 190g Maltesers Teasers egg contains 58g of sugar per 100g for the egg and 19.6g of sugar in each of the two Teasers bars that come with it
- The 188g Smarties egg has 113g of sugar per egg and 22.8g in the tube of Smarties it contains
- The Milky Bar white chocolate Egg Hunt Pack contains eight eggs at 7.7g of sugar per egg
- The Cadbury Creme Egg contains 26g of sugar per 40g egg
IF YOU GO
The flights
FlyDubai flies direct from Dubai to Skopje in five hours from Dh1,314 return including taxes. Hourly buses from Skopje to Ohrid take three hours.
The tours
English-speaking guided tours of Ohrid town and the surrounding area are organised by Cultura 365; these cost €90 (Dh386) for a one-day trip including driver and guide and €100 a day (Dh429) for two people.
The hotels
Villa St Sofija in the old town of Ohrid, twin room from $54 (Dh198) a night.
St Naum Monastery, on the lake 30km south of Ohrid town, has updated its pilgrims' quarters into a modern 3-star hotel, with rooms overlooking the monastery courtyard and lake. Double room from $60 (Dh 220) a night.
