Children who are conscientious appear to be more favoured. Getty Images
Children who are conscientious appear to be more favoured. Getty Images
Children who are conscientious appear to be more favoured. Getty Images
Children who are conscientious appear to be more favoured. Getty Images

Are you the golden child? If not, it might be your fault


Gillian Duncan
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Ask most children with siblings and they will probably say it is true parents have favourites – and now a study has confirmed it.

And if it was not you, there is a good chance you are the problem, because parents are more likely to favour children who are easier to manage, a new study has found. Researchers investigated the link between children's characteristics and the way their parents treat them, initially believing mothers would tend to favour daughters, while fathers would favour sons. But what they actually found was that both were more likely to prefer daughters.

And children who are conscientious – in other words, responsible and organised – also appear to be favoured, suggesting parents may find them easier to manage and may respond better to them, according to the research by the American Psychological Association. When it came to birth order, parents were more likely to give older siblings greater autonomy, possibly because they were more mature, according to Dr Jensen.

But generally, factors like the child's age, parent's gender, or how favouritism was measured, were minimal, underscoring the complex process of how parents choose their favourite child. The study found parents can show favouritism in numerous ways, including how they interact with their children, how much money they spend on them and how much control they exert over them.

Researchers studied overall treatment, positive interactions, negative interactions, resource allocation and control. Getty Images
Researchers studied overall treatment, positive interactions, negative interactions, resource allocation and control. Getty Images

The findings are based on a meta-analysis of 30 peer-reviewed journal articles and dissertations/theses, along with 14 databases, encompassing a total of 19,469 participants. Researchers examined how birth order, gender, temperament and personality traits – including extroversion, agreeableness, openness, conscientiousness and neuroticism – were linked to parental favouritism.

They studied overall treatment, positive interactions, negative interactions, resource allocation and control. Siblings who receive less favoured treatment tend to have poorer mental health and more strained family relationships, according to lead author Dr Alexander Jensen, an associate professor at Brigham Young University.

“For decades, researchers have known that differential treatment from parents can have lasting consequences for children,” he said. “This study helps us understand which children are more likely to be on the receiving end of favouritism, which can be both positive and negative.”

Dr Jensen said he was surprised that “extroversion” was not associated with favouritism. “Americans seem to particularly value extroverted people, but within families it may matter less,” he said. The researchers said they hope their findings will encourage parents to be more aware of their biases and strive to treat all their children fairly.

“It is important to note that this research is correlational, so it doesn't tell us why parents favour certain children,” Dr Jensen said. “However, it does highlight potential areas where parents may need to be more mindful of their interactions with their children.”

“So, the next time you're left wondering whether your sibling is the golden child, remember there is likely more going on behind the scenes than just a preference for the eldest or youngest. It might be about responsibility, temperament or just how easy or hard you are to deal with,” he said.

The research was published in the journal Psychological Bulletin.

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Her dream is to meet with all of her friends online from around the world who supported her work throughout the years

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Tributes from the UAE's personal finance community

• Sebastien Aguilar, who heads SimplyFI.org, a non-profit community where people learn to invest Bogleheads’ style

“It is thanks to Jack Bogle’s work that this community exists and thanks to his work that many investors now get the full benefits of long term, buy and hold stock market investing.

Compared to the industry, investing using the common sense approach of a Boglehead saves a lot in costs and guarantees higher returns than the average actively managed fund over the long term. 

From a personal perspective, learning how to invest using Bogle’s approach was a turning point in my life. I quickly realised there was no point chasing returns and paying expensive advisers or platforms. Once money is taken care off, you can work on what truly matters, such as family, relationships or other projects. I owe Jack Bogle for that.”

• Sam Instone, director of financial advisory firm AES International

"Thought to have saved investors over a trillion dollars, Jack Bogle’s ideas truly changed the way the world invests. Shaped by his own personal experiences, his philosophy and basic rules for investors challenged the status quo of a self-interested global industry and eventually prevailed.  Loathed by many big companies and commission-driven salespeople, he has transformed the way well-informed investors and professional advisers make decisions."

• Demos Kyprianou, a board member of SimplyFI.org

"Jack Bogle for me was a rebel, a revolutionary who changed the industry and gave the little guy like me, a chance. He was also a mentor who inspired me to take the leap and take control of my own finances."

• Steve Cronin, founder of DeadSimpleSaving.com

"Obsessed with reducing fees, Jack Bogle structured Vanguard to be owned by its clients – that way the priority would be fee minimisation for clients rather than profit maximisation for the company.

His real gift to us has been the ability to invest in the stock market (buy and hold for the long term) rather than be forced to speculate (try to make profits in the shorter term) or even worse have others speculate on our behalf.

Bogle has given countless investors the ability to get on with their life while growing their wealth in the background as fast as possible. The Financial Independence movement would barely exist without this."

• Zach Holz, who blogs about financial independence at The Happiest Teacher

"Jack Bogle was one of the greatest forces for wealth democratisation the world has ever seen.  He allowed people a way to be free from the parasitical "financial advisers" whose only real concern are the fat fees they get from selling you over-complicated "products" that have caused millions of people all around the world real harm.”

• Tuan Phan, a board member of SimplyFI.org

"In an industry that’s synonymous with greed, Jack Bogle was a lone wolf, swimming against the tide. When others were incentivised to enrich themselves, he stood by the ‘fiduciary’ standard – something that is badly needed in the financial industry of the UAE."

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Number of employees: 40

Sector: Online food delivery

Funding: Raised $3.2m since inception 

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Ashraf Ghani: 923,592 votes

Abdullah Abdullah: 720,841 votes 

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1970

October 26: Bahrain withdraws from a proposal to create a federation of nine with the seven Trucial States and Qatar. 

December: Ahmed Al Suwaidi visits New York to discuss potential UN membership.

1971

March 1:  Alex Douglas Hume, Conservative foreign secretary confirms that Britain will leave the Gulf and “strongly supports” the creation of a Union of Arab Emirates.

July 12: Historic meeting at which Sheikh Zayed and Sheikh Rashid make a binding agreement to create what will become the UAE.

July 18: It is announced that the UAE will be formed from six emirates, with a proposed constitution signed. RAK is not yet part of the agreement.

August 6:  The fifth anniversary of Sheikh Zayed becoming Ruler of Abu Dhabi, with official celebrations deferred until later in the year.

August 15: Bahrain becomes independent.

September 3: Qatar becomes independent.

November 23-25: Meeting with Sheikh Zayed and Sheikh Rashid and senior British officials to fix December 2 as date of creation of the UAE.

November 29:  At 5.30pm Iranian forces seize the Greater and Lesser Tunbs by force.

November 30: Despite  a power sharing agreement, Tehran takes full control of Abu Musa. 

November 31: UK officials visit all six participating Emirates to formally end the Trucial States treaties

December 2: 11am, Dubai. New Supreme Council formally elects Sheikh Zayed as President. Treaty of Friendship signed with the UK. 11.30am. Flag raising ceremony at Union House and Al Manhal Palace in Abu Dhabi witnessed by Sheikh Khalifa, then Crown Prince of Abu Dhabi.

December 6: Arab League formally admits the UAE. The first British Ambassador presents his credentials to Sheikh Zayed.

December 9: UAE joins the United Nations.

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