I never stood in front of the mirror for hours deciding what to wear, how to wear it and more importantly, what it said about me. I wore the abaya, and whatever I wore underneath didn't matter. My guardian picked my abayas, and thus decided how I should appear to the world. My abayas were simple and subtle and portrayed me as conservative. I found comfort in that arrangement. The outer layer conformed to, and respected norms, and in return demanded respect. Whatever I wore underneath was my business, no one else's. Both worlds meshed.
I don't wear the abaya here in London. Nor do I have my guardian picking my clothes. There are no societal norms for me to adhere to. The new rules I live by are ones I struggle with daily, just as I struggle through a pile of clothes. A pair of jeans would fit, but the shirt I thought it matched would not. Occasionally, I could spend an hour or more trying to reach that imagined peace that I was dressed well enough to leave the comfort of my flat.
Some of my clothes were given to me. Some I fell in love with at first sight and couldn't resist. Others I don't know how I got. Some of my older clothes no longer fit; sometimes I wish they would and sometimes I'm grateful they don't. And some others make me wonder whatever got into me for buying them.
This unstable relationship with my clothes is a reflection of my friendships, my feelings and my approach towards both of them.
I recently confessed to a dear friend that I was finding it difficult to connect with her. We had become so used to texting and emailing that we hardly ever called one another. For her part, she asserted that she preferred to be flexible with her friends and didn't like planning to see them. She preferred to leave things to chance. If we both happened to be in the same place and free at the same time, then we could meet up. However, she didn't understand why I couldn't just call her when I felt like it. To me, it seemed she wasn't going to be, or willing to make herself available; and therefore phone calls represented an immediacy that I was not entitled to, whereas texts meant she could get to them in her own time and respond when she wished to.
A lot of people have lots of clothes. They have their own styles, and are comfortable with the messages those styles send. I lack such creativity, fashion sense, audacity and beautiful diversity with clothes. But I do have an astounding array of friends.
Recently, my friends from the UAE visited me. On one occasion I noticed how different all my friends were, from each other and from me. At one table sat a bunch who ranged between the shy and the audacious, the quiet and the talkative, the introverted and the extroverted. We were British, Chinese, Emirati, Israeli and Japanese. Our politics, beliefs and lifestyles also varied.
Most days I hate the clothes I've put on. They're too tight, too bright, too cold, too warm, with a rip I hadn't noticed earlier. But I am grateful for this flightiness, as it echoes my flexibility in selecting my friends.
The beautiful women I call friends - the ones who sat at table with me recently - could never have come about if I knew what I was getting myself into every day after wearing something comfortable underneath my abaya without a care, or after spending hours trying to be presentable without one. They would never have come about if I had carefully planned what to wear. They came about in the confused process of deciding what to wear, how to wear it and what it suggests about me.
Salma Khalifa is an Emirati graduate student at the London School of Economics and Political Science.
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In numbers: PKK’s money network in Europe
Germany: PKK collectors typically bring in $18 million in cash a year – amount has trebled since 2010
Revolutionary tax: Investigators say about $2 million a year raised from ‘tax collection’ around Marseille
Extortion: Gunman convicted in 2023 of demanding $10,000 from Kurdish businessman in Stockholm
Drug trade: PKK income claimed by Turkish anti-drugs force in 2024 to be as high as $500 million a year
Denmark: PKK one of two terrorist groups along with Iranian separatists ASMLA to raise “two-digit million amounts”
Contributions: Hundreds of euros expected from typical Kurdish families and thousands from business owners
TV channel: Kurdish Roj TV accounts frozen and went bankrupt after Denmark fined it more than $1 million over PKK links in 2013
UAE v Gibraltar
What: International friendly
When: 7pm kick off
Where: Rugby Park, Dubai Sports City
Admission: Free
Online: The match will be broadcast live on Dubai Exiles’ Facebook page
UAE squad: Lucas Waddington (Dubai Exiles), Gio Fourie (Exiles), Craig Nutt (Abu Dhabi Harlequins), Phil Brady (Harlequins), Daniel Perry (Dubai Hurricanes), Esekaia Dranibota (Harlequins), Matt Mills (Exiles), Jaen Botes (Exiles), Kristian Stinson (Exiles), Murray Reason (Abu Dhabi Saracens), Dave Knight (Hurricanes), Ross Samson (Jebel Ali Dragons), DuRandt Gerber (Exiles), Saki Naisau (Dragons), Andrew Powell (Hurricanes), Emosi Vacanau (Harlequins), Niko Volavola (Dragons), Matt Richards (Dragons), Luke Stevenson (Harlequins), Josh Ives (Dubai Sports City Eagles), Sean Stevens (Saracens), Thinus Steyn (Exiles)
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Specs
Engine: Duel electric motors
Power: 659hp
Torque: 1075Nm
On sale: Available for pre-order now
Price: On request
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Director: Basel Adra, Yuval Abraham, Rachel Szor, Hamdan Ballal
Stars: Basel Adra, Yuval Abraham
Rating: 3.5/5
Quick pearls of wisdom
Focus on gratitude: And do so deeply, he says. “Think of one to three things a day that you’re grateful for. It needs to be specific, too, don’t just say ‘air.’ Really think about it. If you’re grateful for, say, what your parents have done for you, that will motivate you to do more for the world.”
Know how to fight: Shetty married his wife, Radhi, three years ago (he met her in a meditation class before he went off and became a monk). He says they’ve had to learn to respect each other’s “fighting styles” – he’s a talk it-out-immediately person, while she needs space to think. “When you’re having an argument, remember, it’s not you against each other. It’s both of you against the problem. When you win, they lose. If you’re on a team you have to win together.”
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Specs
Engine: 51.5kW electric motor
Range: 400km
Power: 134bhp
Torque: 175Nm
Price: From Dh98,800
Available: Now
Scoreline
Bournemouth 2
Wilson 70', Ibe 74'
Arsenal 1
Bellerin 52'
The specs
Engine: 4.0-litre flat-six
Torque: 450Nm at 6,100rpm
Transmission: 7-speed PDK auto or 6-speed manual
Fuel economy, combined: 13.8L/100km
On sale: Available to order now
The specs
Engine: 3.0-litre flat-six twin-turbocharged
Transmission: eight-speed PDK automatic
Power: 445bhp
Torque: 530Nm
Price: Dh474,600
On Sale: Now
The specs
Engine: 3.0-litre six-cylinder turbo
Power: 398hp from 5,250rpm
Torque: 580Nm at 1,900-4,800rpm
Transmission: Eight-speed auto
Fuel economy, combined: 6.5L/100km
On sale: December
Price: From Dh330,000 (estimate)
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TOURNAMENT INFO
Fixtures
Sunday January 5 - Oman v UAE
Monday January 6 - UAE v Namibia
Wednesday January 8 - Oman v Namibia
Thursday January 9 - Oman v UAE
Saturday January 11 - UAE v Namibia
Sunday January 12 – Oman v Namibia
UAE squad
Ahmed Raza (captain), Rohan Mustafa, Mohammed Usman, CP Rizwan, Waheed Ahmed, Zawar Farid, Darius D’Silva, Karthik Meiyappan, Jonathan Figy, Vriitya Aravind, Zahoor Khan, Junaid Siddique, Basil Hameed, Chirag Suri
Vidaamuyarchi
Director: Magizh Thirumeni
Stars: Ajith Kumar, Arjun Sarja, Trisha Krishnan, Regina Cassandra
Rating: 4/5
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Formula Middle East Calendar (Formula Regional and Formula 4)
Round 1: January 17-19, Yas Marina Circuit – Abu Dhabi
Round 2: January 22-23, Yas Marina Circuit – Abu Dhabi
Round 3: February 7-9, Dubai Autodrome – Dubai
Round 4: February 14-16, Yas Marina Circuit – Abu Dhabi
Round 5: February 25-27, Jeddah Corniche Circuit – Saudi Arabia
Skewed figures
In the village of Mevagissey in southwest England the housing stock has doubled in the last century while the number of residents is half the historic high. The village's Neighbourhood Development Plan states that 26% of homes are holiday retreats. Prices are high, averaging around £300,000, £50,000 more than the Cornish average of £250,000. The local average wage is £15,458.
THE BIO
Family: I have three siblings, one older brother (age 25) and two younger sisters, 20 and 13
Favourite book: Asking for my favourite book has to be one of the hardest questions. However a current favourite would be Sidewalk by Mitchell Duneier
Favourite place to travel to: Any walkable city. I also love nature and wildlife
What do you love eating or cooking: I’m constantly in the kitchen. Ever since I changed the way I eat I enjoy choosing and creating what goes into my body. However, nothing can top home cooked food from my parents.
Favorite place to go in the UAE: A quiet beach.
MATCH INFO
Manchester City 1 Chelsea 0
De Bruyne (70')
Man of the Match: Kevin de Bruyne (Manchester City)