When it comes to raising children, experts agree that successful parenting stems from mums and dads being aligned on their approach and communicating often and openly.
Co-parenting is no different. In fact, when parents are no longer together, it becomes more important than ever to share responsibilities and decisions, and keep lines of communication open, especially factoring in the challenges a divorce or separation can bring.
“I know some break-ups are complicated, but try to be the better person and encourage the same from the other parent,” says Dubai resident Christian Malholm, chief executive of CM Holding, who co-parents his son, nine. “Take the ‘how do we get the best out of this situation’ approach, and seek help if you have problems.”
Dr Charlotte Cousins, a clinical psychologist at Sage Clinic, says there is no right or wrong way to co-parent. Rather, “it is all about finding ways that work for you as parents and, most importantly, for your children.”
Putting the children first
“For us, the guiding light was that our actions should not make the children feel the absence of the parent,” says Saurabh Arora, a vice president in business development, who has been co-parenting his son, 14, and daughter, 12, since 2017. “The welfare of the children always came first and we were committed to giving them an environment they could flourish in.”
Arora and his ex-wife created what he calls a “soft landing” for their children, whereby they lived so close to one another that the children could “go in and out between our homes”.
They also shared custodial responsibility, with Arora named as guardian and his ex-wife as custodian.
“For co-parenting to work, it is mandatory that parents consider their child’s needs and developmental stages, as well as their own lifestyles and availability,” says Rita Figueiredo, a clinical and health psychologist at Thrive Wellbeing Centre. “This will allow them to make a plan that satisfies the best interest of their child.
“It is well documented that shared custody with alternating residences is a successful method for both parents and children, especially if the parents have a good co-parenting relationship,” she adds. “Children will quickly adjust to having two different homes and to the new arrangement.”
What to do when parents cannot get along
“My ex-husband and I co-parent to the very best of our own abilities, but when it comes to the two of us, I can honestly say we’re not at a place where we can be in each other’s company,” says Abu Dhabi resident Ellie (name changed upon request), mum of two sons aged six and eight.
Divorced for 18 months, Ellie says the acrimonious split still casts a shadow over their co-parenting. “While we would never say anything negative about the other parent in front of the children, I’m sure they can’t help but pick up the fact that mummy and daddy don’t get along,” she says. “For example, we don’t sit together when we go to school assemblies or extra-curricular activities, and we do separate birthdays and holidays for the kids.”
Co-parenting apps can provide a structured way to exchange information without direct interaction
Maham Rasheed,
clinical psychologist, Nabta Healthcare
Working to maintain a cordial relationship with a former partner is vital when it comes to allaying children’s fears and avoiding putting them in difficult or vulnerable positions.
“One of the most important things is to not talk negatively about your ex-partner or make your children adopt the role of mediator or messenger,” says Cousins.
“When someone speaks negatively about an ex-partner in front of their children, it can affect how the child views that parent and the relationship they have with them. They may feel as though they have to distance themselves from that parent and show anger and blame towards them in support of you and because of the hurt they caused you.”
For parents who are struggling to maintain civil relations, options such as therapy, support groups and apps can help make co-parenting smoother.
“Utilising communication platforms such as messaging apps can provide a structured way to exchange information without direct interaction,” says Maham Rasheed, a clinical psychologist at Nabta Healthcare. “Co-parenting apps that are designed to facilitate communication, share calendars and manage shared expenses can be beneficial.”
How broken families can affect children
“When the parenting team breaks down, the children are the ones who suffer most”, says Figueiredo, reiterating the importance of successful co-parenting. “Ensuring that the final goal of the parenting team is the same – healthy, happy children – will help with determining priorities and solving common problems.”
I often hear children say they worry they made their parents lives too stressful and wonder if this is what led to the separation
Dr Charlotte Cousins,
clinical psychologist, Sage Clinic
Years of research and studies into childhood development all point to the fact that children thrive on consistency. Divorce can be a major disruption to a child’s routine, especially when it comes to housing, school and even country of residence, which can negatively affect their mental health, well-being and future relationships.
“Children often feel responsibility; they may question whether the separation was their fault,” says Cousins. “I often hear children say they worry they made their parents lives too stressful and wonder if this is what led to the separation.
“In addition, children often feel responsible for their parents’ feelings, wanting them to be happy again and not to feel the understandable sadness they feel,” she adds. “This can lead to children hiding or masking their own feelings, for fear of how their feelings will affect the parent.”
Children can also experience a sense of loss for the family life they had, as well as feelings of guilt about time spent with each parent.
“From confusion about the new family structure and anxiety over the unknown future to feelings of guilt, sadness and anger, the emotional landscape can be complex,” says Rasheed. “Adapting to different rules and routines in each household poses challenges, and a fear of abandonment or loyalty conflicts may arise.”
Co-parenting as a step-parent
Introducing new partners when co-parenting can create situations that need to be navigated with sensitivity.
Decisions about how much input a step-parent has in making decisions concerning the child, as well as considering their different approaches to parenting should be discussed early on to avoid conflict.
Houri Elmayan, a public relations strategist, is mother to a daughter, two, and stepmother to a boy, nine, from her husband Malholm's previous marriage.
The majority of the decision-making is up to them - which I prefer - but I'm part of the conversation
Houri Elmayan,
PR strategist
“Early into the relationship, my husband was clear that he wanted to find a partner who would support him as a co-parent and co-parent with him,” says Elmayan. “That was very helpful as it prepared me for our future together.
“Both mum and dad have a great approach when splitting responsibilities and can count on one another when the need arises. The majority of the decision-making is up to them – which I prefer – but I'm also part of the conversation and we agree to things harmoniously.”
Elmayan says their parenting discussions revolve around the child's “logistical and practical stuff, but also his health, emotional well-being and collectively working on any challenges a kid his age may be facing.
“I've been extremely lucky to enter into a relationship where the ex-partner is warm, understanding and a great mum, and the split was amicable. We have built a strong relationship and regularly spend time together.”
Malholm adds: “We have a flexible and floating approach to dividing time, so there are periods when he is more with us or his mum.”
Above all, he says, be practical and be there for your children, “whether it's helping out your ex-partner in terms of practicality or just keeping in mind that the child did not have a say in this situation”.
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Ms Yang's top tips for parents new to the UAE
- Join parent networks
- Look beyond school fees
- Keep an open mind
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'Worse than a prison sentence'
Marie Byrne, a counsellor who volunteers at the UAE government's mental health crisis helpline, said the ordeal the crew had been through would take time to overcome.
“It was worse than a prison sentence, where at least someone can deal with a set amount of time incarcerated," she said.
“They were living in perpetual mystery as to how their futures would pan out, and what that would be.
“Because of coronavirus, the world is very different now to the one they left, that will also have an impact.
“It will not fully register until they are on dry land. Some have not seen their young children grow up while others will have to rebuild relationships.
“It will be a challenge mentally, and to find other work to support their families as they have been out of circulation for so long. Hopefully they will get the care they need when they get home.”
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Director: Abdulrahman Sabbah
Starring: Alaa Meqdad
Rating: 4/5
The Settlers
Director: Louis Theroux
Starring: Daniella Weiss, Ari Abramowitz
Rating: 5/5
INDIA SQUAD
Virat Kohli (capt), Rohit Sharma, Shikhar Dhawan, KL Rahul, Vijay Shankar, MS Dhoni (wk), Kedar Jadhav, Dinesh Karthik, Yuzvendra Chahal, Kuldeep Yadav, Bhuvneshwar Kumar, Jasprit Bumrah, Hardik Pandya, Ravindra Jadeja, Mohammed Shami
Indoor cricket World Cup:
Insportz, Dubai, September 16-23
UAE fixtures:
Men
Saturday, September 16 – 1.45pm, v New Zealand
Sunday, September 17 – 10.30am, v Australia; 3.45pm, v South Africa
Monday, September 18 – 2pm, v England; 7.15pm, v India
Tuesday, September 19 – 12.15pm, v Singapore; 5.30pm, v Sri Lanka
Thursday, September 21 – 2pm v Malaysia
Friday, September 22 – 3.30pm, semi-final
Saturday, September 23 – 3pm, grand final
Women
Saturday, September 16 – 5.15pm, v Australia
Sunday, September 17 – 2pm, v South Africa; 7.15pm, v New Zealand
Monday, September 18 – 5.30pm, v England
Tuesday, September 19 – 10.30am, v New Zealand; 3.45pm, v South Africa
Thursday, September 21 – 12.15pm, v Australia
Friday, September 22 – 1.30pm, semi-final
Saturday, September 23 – 1pm, grand final
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2025 Fifa Club World Cup groups
Group A: Palmeiras, Porto, Al Ahly, Inter Miami.
Group B: Paris Saint-Germain, Atletico Madrid, Botafogo, Seattle.
Group C: Bayern Munich, Auckland City, Boca Juniors, Benfica.
Group D: Flamengo, ES Tunis, Chelsea, Leon.
Group E: River Plate, Urawa, Monterrey, Inter Milan.
Group F: Fluminense, Borussia Dortmund, Ulsan, Mamelodi Sundowns.
Group G: Manchester City, Wydad, Al Ain, Juventus.
Group H: Real Madrid, Al Hilal, Pachuca, Salzburg.
What's in the deal?
Agreement aims to boost trade by £25.5bn a year in the long run, compared with a total of £42.6bn in 2024
India will slash levies on medical devices, machinery, cosmetics, soft drinks and lamb.
India will also cut automotive tariffs to 10% under a quota from over 100% currently.
Indian employees in the UK will receive three years exemption from social security payments
India expects 99% of exports to benefit from zero duty, raising opportunities for textiles, marine products, footwear and jewellery
UAE currency: the story behind the money in your pockets
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Virtuzone GCC Sixes
Date and venue Friday and Saturday, ICC Academy, Dubai Sports City
Time Matches start at 9am
Groups
A Blighty Ducks, Darjeeling Colts, Darjeeling Social, Dubai Wombats; B Darjeeling Veterans, Kuwait Casuals, Loose Cannons, Savannah Lions; C Awali Taverners, Darjeeling, Dromedary, Darjeeling Good Eggs
Sholto Byrnes on Myanmar politics
How Filipinos in the UAE invest
A recent survey of 10,000 Filipino expatriates in the UAE found that 82 per cent have plans to invest, primarily in property. This is significantly higher than the 2014 poll showing only two out of 10 Filipinos planned to invest.
Fifty-five percent said they plan to invest in property, according to the poll conducted by the New Perspective Media Group, organiser of the Philippine Property and Investment Exhibition. Acquiring a franchised business or starting up a small business was preferred by 25 per cent and 15 per cent said they will invest in mutual funds. The rest said they are keen to invest in insurance (3 per cent) and gold (2 per cent).
Of the 5,500 respondents who preferred property as their primary investment, 54 per cent said they plan to make the purchase within the next year. Manila was the top location, preferred by 53 per cent.
Defence review at a glance
• Increase defence spending to 2.5% of GDP by 2027 but given “turbulent times it may be necessary to go faster”
• Prioritise a shift towards working with AI and autonomous systems
• Invest in the resilience of military space systems.
• Number of active reserves should be increased by 20%
• More F-35 fighter jets required in the next decade
• New “hybrid Navy” with AUKUS submarines and autonomous vessels
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Dr Afridi's warning signs of digital addiction
Spending an excessive amount of time on the phone.
Neglecting personal, social, or academic responsibilities.
Losing interest in other activities or hobbies that were once enjoyed.
Having withdrawal symptoms like feeling anxious, restless, or upset when the technology is not available.
Experiencing sleep disturbances or changes in sleep patterns.
What are the guidelines?
Under 18 months: Avoid screen time altogether, except for video chatting with family.
Aged 18-24 months: If screens are introduced, it should be high-quality content watched with a caregiver to help the child understand what they are seeing.
Aged 2-5 years: Limit to one-hour per day of high-quality programming, with co-viewing whenever possible.
Aged 6-12 years: Set consistent limits on screen time to ensure it does not interfere with sleep, physical activity, or social interactions.
Teenagers: Encourage a balanced approach – screens should not replace sleep, exercise, or face-to-face socialisation.
Source: American Paediatric Association
Killing of Qassem Suleimani
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Engine: 4.0-litre flat-six
Torque: 450Nm at 6,100rpm
Transmission: 7-speed PDK auto or 6-speed manual
Fuel economy, combined: 13.8L/100km
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Schedule:
Friday, January 12: Six fourball matches
Saturday, January 13: Six foursome (alternate shot) matches
Sunday, January 14: 12 singles
Killing of Qassem Suleimani
How to register as a donor
1) Organ donors can register on the Hayat app, run by the Ministry of Health and Prevention
2) There are about 11,000 patients in the country in need of organ transplants
3) People must be over 21. Emiratis and residents can register.
4) The campaign uses the hashtag #donate_hope
MWTC
Tickets start from Dh100 for adults and are now on sale at www.ticketmaster.ae and Virgin Megastores across the UAE. Three-day and travel packages are also available at 20 per cent discount.
THE BIO
Favourite author - Paulo Coelho
Favourite holiday destination - Cuba
New York Times or Jordan Times? NYT is a school and JT was my practice field
Role model - My Grandfather
Dream interviewee - Che Guevara
In numbers: PKK’s money network in Europe
Germany: PKK collectors typically bring in $18 million in cash a year – amount has trebled since 2010
Revolutionary tax: Investigators say about $2 million a year raised from ‘tax collection’ around Marseille
Extortion: Gunman convicted in 2023 of demanding $10,000 from Kurdish businessman in Stockholm
Drug trade: PKK income claimed by Turkish anti-drugs force in 2024 to be as high as $500 million a year
Denmark: PKK one of two terrorist groups along with Iranian separatists ASMLA to raise “two-digit million amounts”
Contributions: Hundreds of euros expected from typical Kurdish families and thousands from business owners
TV channel: Kurdish Roj TV accounts frozen and went bankrupt after Denmark fined it more than $1 million over PKK links in 2013
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Labour dispute
The insured employee may still file an ILOE claim even if a labour dispute is ongoing post termination, but the insurer may suspend or reject payment, until the courts resolve the dispute, especially if the reason for termination is contested. The outcome of the labour court proceedings can directly affect eligibility.
- Abdullah Ishnaneh, Partner, BSA Law
About Proto21
Date started: May 2018
Founder: Pir Arkam
Based: Dubai
Sector: Additive manufacturing (aka, 3D printing)
Staff: 18
Funding: Invested, supported and partnered by Joseph Group
Keane on …
Liverpool’s Uefa Champions League bid: “They’re great. With the attacking force they have, for me, they’re certainly one of the favourites. You look at the teams left in it - they’re capable of scoring against anybody at any given time. Defensively they’ve been good, so I don’t see any reason why they couldn’t go on and win it.”
Mohamed Salah’s debut campaign at Anfield: “Unbelievable. He’s been phenomenal. You can name the front three, but for him on a personal level, he’s been unreal. He’s been great to watch and hopefully he can continue now until the end of the season - which I’m sure he will, because he’s been in fine form. He’s been incredible this season.”
Zlatan Ibrahimovic’s instant impact at former club LA Galaxy: “Brilliant. It’s been a great start for him and for the club. They were crying out for another big name there. They were lacking that, for the prestige of LA Galaxy. And now they have one of the finest stars. I hope they can go win something this year.”
TRAP
Starring: Josh Hartnett, Saleka Shyamalan, Ariel Donaghue
Director: M Night Shyamalan
Rating: 3/5
THE BIO
Born: Mukalla, Yemen, 1979
Education: UAE University, Al Ain
Family: Married with two daughters: Asayel, 7, and Sara, 6
Favourite piece of music: Horse Dance by Naseer Shamma
Favourite book: Science and geology
Favourite place to travel to: Washington DC
Best advice you’ve ever been given: If you have a dream, you have to believe it, then you will see it.
ESSENTIALS
The flights
Emirates flies from Dubai to Phnom Penh via Yangon from Dh2,700 return including taxes. Cambodia Bayon Airlines and Cambodia Angkor Air offer return flights from Phnom Penh to Siem Reap from Dh250 return including taxes. The flight takes about 45 minutes.
The hotels
Rooms at the Raffles Le Royal in Phnom Penh cost from $225 (Dh826) per night including taxes. Rooms at the Grand Hotel d'Angkor cost from $261 (Dh960) per night including taxes.
The tours
A cyclo architecture tour of Phnom Penh costs from $20 (Dh75) per person for about three hours, with Khmer Architecture Tours. Tailor-made tours of all of Cambodia, or sites like Angkor alone, can be arranged by About Asia Travel. Emirates Holidays also offers packages.
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AUSTRALIA SQUAD
Aaron Finch, Matt Renshaw, Brendan Doggett, Michael Neser, Usman Khawaja, Shaun Marsh, Mitchell Marsh, Tim Paine (captain), Travis Head, Marnus Labuschagne, Nathan Lyon, Jon Holland, Ashton Agar, Mitchell Starc, Peter Siddle
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Living in...
This article is part of a guide on where to live in the UAE. Our reporters will profile some of the country’s most desirable districts, provide an estimate of rental prices and introduce you to some of the residents who call each area home.
Most wanted allegations
- Benjamin Macann, 32: involvement in cocaine smuggling gang.
- Jack Mayle, 30: sold drugs from a phone line called the Flavour Quest.
- Callum Halpin, 27: over the 2018 murder of a rival drug dealer.
- Asim Naveed, 29: accused of being the leader of a gang that imported cocaine.
- Calvin Parris, 32: accused of buying cocaine from Naveed and selling it on.
- John James Jones, 31: allegedly stabbed two people causing serious injuries.
- Callum Michael Allan, 23: alleged drug dealing and assaulting an emergency worker.
- Dean Garforth, 29: part of a crime gang that sold drugs and guns.
- Joshua Dillon Hendry, 30: accused of trafficking heroin and crack cocain.
- Mark Francis Roberts, 28: grievous bodily harm after a bungled attempt to steal a £60,000 watch.
- James ‘Jamie’ Stevenson, 56: for arson and over the seizure of a tonne of cocaine.
- Nana Oppong, 41: shot a man eight times in a suspected gangland reprisal attack.
