The dash to the hospital, the excruciating pain and the doting mother who forgets everything the moment she sees her baby: these are merely a few of the childbirth scenes we've seen on screens.
But, as with anything in life, giving birth is different for everyone, and some of these well-versed scripts are actually doing more damage than good for a woman's psyche.
Here, we review a few of the most common incorrect depictions of what happens in the delivery room.
1. Labour isn’t that dramatic
The heroine’s water breaks with a flood in front of her co-stars, intense-sounding contractions commence and from then on it’s a mad rush to the hospital and the delivery room.
It simply doesn’t happen like that. In fact, you might not necessarily notice that your water has broken, your contractions might take hours to really kick in and you’re not considered to be in “active labour” until you’re four centimetres dilated. So, even if you do go to the hospital, you might be sent back home (mostly because we’re more comfortable progressing in our labour there, not because the midwives and doctors are trying to be mean).
From then on, it could take anywhere from an hour to 30-plus hours for baby to make his or her arrival.
2. Childbirth doesn’t have to be that painful
Bar the odd exception (such as Brooklyn Decker's rather serene birthing experience in What to Expect When You're Expecting), childbirth is made to look excruciatingly painful in films.
This common depiction has only gone on to feed the fears of women who have not yet given birth.
The thing is, people feel pain in myriad ways, so you never really know how you’re going to cope until you’ve been through it. Some ladies describe their sensations as bad period cramps, while others feel them more intensely.
What isn’t shown in the movies is that there are so many ways to mitigate pain, from learning breathing techniques via hypnobirthing to using a Tens machine and opting for medical solutions, such as an epidural (but there are also many other drug options in between).
There's no wrong approach. It's all about what works for you on the day.
3. It’s not that noisy
Along with the extreme pain, another common trope is the screaming woman pouring with sweat. It’s enough to put you off having a baby altogether.
Sure, you might find it helpful to make some noise as you help push your baby out, but the sounds are more likely to be low moans, roars and grunts than yelling at the top of your lungs (although if that works for you, then so be it). Plenty of women also deliver silently, humming or deeply breathing as they go along.
Again, you won't know what's more comfortable for you until you go through it.
4. Your husband isn’t the enemy
As our on-screen stars scream through contractions, they also tend to turn their attention to shouting at the nearby baby daddy.
While that might be the case for a few, in reality, most people will be relying on them, their birth partner, for support. You have far more important things to be focusing on than shouting at them, after all.
Plus, you’ll have plenty of oxytocin (the “love hormone”) coursing through your body at this point, not to mention calming endorphins. So the likelihood of you having a domestic in the delivery room is fairly slim.
5. There isn’t only one position for birth
The majority of films – arguably all big blockbusters – that include a birth scene show the woman lying on her back with her legs in stirrups. Yes, that’s one way to deliver your baby, but it’s not your only option.
You can also go on your hands and knees, lean on the bed, squat and get on a birthing ball, too.
Then, of course, there’s the water birth.
It depends on you – and, in the UAE, on your hospital's policies – as to what position you feel most comfortable in.
6. You don’t have to wear the hospital gown
Think back to every birth scene you’ve ever seen, and you’ll probably remember our celebrities donning that horrible hospital gown. It’s not a prerequisite, by the way; you can wear it if you really want to, but more often than not women will choose to wear soft, comfortable pyjamas and clothes that are familiar and beloved. Or they might even wear nothing. Again, it’s entirely up to you. Comfort is key.
7. You won’t have your ex-husband’s sister’s roommate there with you
Have you noticed how almost every other cast member in a film or TV series manages to make it to the birth?
Firstly, it’s highly unlikely that a woman would want that many people milling around her while she’s going through what’s likely to be the most important moment of her life. She’ll probably want as much privacy as she can get.
Secondly, as so many women go into labour overnight (thanks to something to do with melatonin levels), it’s also highly unlikely that people who are not particularly close to her would be dragging themselves out of bed to be there.
Normally, women will have one or two birth partners, plus any medical staff, in the room with her (if, like you have to in the UAE, she’s delivering at a hospital).
Visiting hours are reserved for after the birth (and post-pandemic).
8. You won't necessarily bond with your baby right away
Perhaps the most damaging stereotype is the woman who forgets everything she's just been through and lovingly looks on at her newborn baby.
Of course this is the case for many women, but it might not be.
You've just been through a lot to get him or her safely into this world, so if you don't feel a surge of love and bonding right away, that's OK. Don't feel guilty or like you're a bad mother (you have plenty of time for all that later, as they grow up!).
Go easy on yourself, give yourself time to adjust and you'll find those feelings will come flooding in sooner or later.
Then again, if you find any sadness or negative mood lingers past a couple of weeks after birth, you should talk to your doctor about the possibility of postnatal depression, which is common and treatable.
Conflict, drought, famine
Estimates of the number of deaths caused by the famine range from 400,000 to 1 million, according to a document prepared for the UK House of Lords in 2024.
It has been claimed that the policies of the Ethiopian government, which took control after deposing Emperor Haile Selassie in a military-led revolution in 1974, contributed to the scale of the famine.
Dr Miriam Bradley, senior lecturer in humanitarian studies at the University of Manchester, has argued that, by the early 1980s, “several government policies combined to cause, rather than prevent, a famine which lasted from 1983 to 1985. Mengistu’s government imposed Stalinist-model agricultural policies involving forced collectivisation and villagisation [relocation of communities into planned villages].
The West became aware of the catastrophe through a series of BBC News reports by journalist Michael Buerk in October 1984 describing a “biblical famine” and containing graphic images of thousands of people, including children, facing starvation.
Band Aid
Bob Geldof, singer with the Irish rock group The Boomtown Rats, formed Band Aid in response to the horrific images shown in the news broadcasts.
With Midge Ure of the band Ultravox, he wrote the hit charity single Do They Know it’s Christmas in December 1984, featuring a string of high-profile musicians.
Following the single’s success, the idea to stage a rock concert evolved.
Live Aid was a series of simultaneous concerts that took place at Wembley Stadium in London, John F Kennedy Stadium in Philadelphia, the US, and at various other venues across the world.
The combined event was broadcast to an estimated worldwide audience of 1.5 billion.
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Iran has sent five planeloads of food to Qatar, which is suffering shortages amid a regional blockade.
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Greenheart Organic Farms
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www.greenheartuae.com
Modibodi
Founded in Australia, Modibodi is now in the UAE with waste-free, reusable underwear that eliminates the litter created by a woman’s monthly cycle, which adds up to approximately 136kgs of sanitary waste over a lifetime.
www.modibodi.ae
The Good Karma Co
From brushes made of plant fibres to eco-friendly storage solutions, this company has planet-friendly alternatives to almost everything we need, including tin foil and toothbrushes.
www.instagram.com/thegoodkarmaco
Re:told
One Dubai boutique, Re:told, is taking second-hand garments and selling them on at a fraction of the price, helping to cut back on the hundreds of thousands of tonnes of clothes thrown into landfills each year.
www.shopretold.com
Lush
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www.mena.lush.com
Bubble Bro
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www.bubble-bro.com
Coethical
This company offers refillable, eco-friendly home cleaning and hygiene products that are all biodegradable, free of chemicals and certifiably not tested on animals.
www.instagram.com/coethical
Eggs & Soldiers
This bricks-and-mortar shop and e-store, founded by a Dubai mum-of-four, is the place to go for all manner of family products – from reusable cloth diapers to organic skincare and sustainable toys.
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School counsellors on mental well-being
Schools counsellors in Abu Dhabi have put a number of provisions in place to help support pupils returning to the classroom next week.
Many children will resume in-person lessons for the first time in 10 months and parents previously raised concerns about the long-term effects of distance learning.
Schools leaders and counsellors said extra support will be offered to anyone that needs it. Additionally, heads of years will be on hand to offer advice or coping mechanisms to ease any concerns.
“Anxiety this time round has really spiralled, more so than from the first lockdown at the beginning of the pandemic,” said Priya Mitchell, counsellor at The British School Al Khubairat in Abu Dhabi.
“Some have got used to being at home don’t want to go back, while others are desperate to get back.
“We have seen an increase in depressive symptoms, especially with older pupils, and self-harm is starting younger.
“It is worrying and has taught us how important it is that we prioritise mental well-being.”
Ms Mitchell said she was liaising more with heads of year so they can support and offer advice to pupils if the demand is there.
The school will also carry out mental well-being checks so they can pick up on any behavioural patterns and put interventions in place to help pupils.
At Raha International School, the well-being team has provided parents with assessment surveys to see how they can support students at home to transition back to school.
“They have created a Well-being Resource Bank that parents have access to on information on various domains of mental health for students and families,” a team member said.
“Our pastoral team have been working with students to help ease the transition and reduce anxiety that [pupils] may experience after some have been nearly a year off campus.
"Special secondary tutorial classes have also focused on preparing students for their return; going over new guidelines, expectations and daily schedules.”
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