Three friends in Barcelona
Three friends in Barcelona

After years of ridicule, my Facebook-free status is now a source of envy – like it or not



I am ahead of the curve, for once. A decision made many, many years ago, for which I have been endlessly ridiculed, has finally paid off. Not that I was ever anything but steadfast in my decision not to set up a Facebook account.

It just seemed totally incomprehensible to most other people on the planet that I would be so, well, anti-social. Initially, people thought it was an act of rebellion – that I was trying to make some kind of grand statement. Not so.

Then the cajoling began. I was informed, repeatedly, that it would be so much easier for everyone else if I did the decent thing and joined Facebook. Eventually, I became something of a novelty – a relic from a bygone era that was in equal measures fascinating and perplexing.

But in recent months, I have noticed that my decision is increasingly being greeted with begrudging respect.

I get the sense that people are becoming weighed down by the unending demands of their social-media profiles – and that they are ever so slightly envious of my Facebook-free existence. And this week? Well, this week, following reports that Facebook allowed third-party apps to extract the personal data of more than 50 million of its users and their friends, I will admit that I am feeling ever so slightly smug.

It will be interesting to see how Facebook weathers this storm. In truth, most people have little interest in following my lead. Much of this is driven by a fear of missing out, a weakness in the human psyche that social-media platforms are particularly adept at exploiting. And I won't deny that you do miss out on some things when you dare to eschew the tantalising, far-reaching tentacles of Zuckerberg and Co.

I have been excluded from social events because people sent out Facebook invites, but forgot to let me know. There are baby pictures and wedding pictures and even family pictures that I have never seen, because no one thought to send them to me or, perish the thought, show them to me in person. I am always the last to hear about big events in the lives of my closest friends, am never in the know when it comes to celebrity gossip, and generally miss out on all of the best memes.

There is the argument that because we live away from home, Facebook is an important aid in ensuring that we are actively involved in the lives of those closest to us. This is the one argument that I might pay credence to, although I suspect Facebook encourages passive rather than active engagement in our human relationships.

Why bother making a call and having a real conversation if you already know everything that your best friend has been up to this week? If you have access to a steady stream of pictures and videos of your nephew’s every waking hour, perhaps there is less impetus to make that trip home and see him yourself?  

I hope I don’t sound like a zealot.There is no grand existential reason why I never joined Facebook. I just never really saw the point. I spend my day looking at a screen and sifting through information, trying to work out what’s important and what’s not. The last thing I want to do when I go home is more of the same.

I already have a perfectly respectable number of friends and didn't see the need to increase that number one-hundred-fold. My feeling is that if I have lost touch with people over the years, there's very likely a reason for it. And if people really want to find me in this internet-driven age, it's not that hard.

What the Cambridge Analytica crisis has really highlighted is the issue of privacy. On a macro level, every day, people around the world are voluntarily giving up mountains of information about themselves, with no thought to how that data may be used, now or in the future.

On a micro level, people seem to no longer be able to discern between what should be made public and what should be kept private. There seems to be scant understanding that divorces and breakdowns and outpourings of grief don’t always need to be played out in front of an audience. And at the other end of the scale, who do you actually imagine is interested in what you had for breakfast?

In December, months before anyone had even heard of Cambridge Analytica, a former Facebook executive came out on record to say that he thought that the site was having a negative impact on human society.

Chamath Palihapitiya, who was vice-president for user growth at Facebook before he left the company in 2011, told The Guardian that "the short-term, dopamine-driven feedback loops that we have created are destroying how society works. No civil discourse, no cooperation, misinformation, mistruth."

Indeed, people have forgotten that “likes” are not a valid form of self-validation, and followers are not the only measure of personal success.And, most importantly, when you look behind the screen, it’s all smoke and mirrors anyway.

It will be interesting to see whether Facebook users will vote with their feet (or fingers) following this latest betrayal of trust.

All I can do is vouch for the fact that you can lead a happy, fulfilled life, even if it is Facebook-free.

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Eldarir had arrived at JFK in January 2020 with three suitcases, containing goods he valued at $300, when he was directed to a search area.
Officers found 41 gold artefacts among the bags, including amulets from a funerary set which prepared the deceased for the afterlife.
Also found was a cartouche of a Ptolemaic king on a relief that was originally part of a royal building or temple. 
The largest single group of items found in Eldarir’s cases were 400 shabtis, or figurines.

Khouli conviction

Khouli smuggled items into the US by making false declarations to customs about the country of origin and value of the items.
According to Immigration and Customs Enforcement, he provided “false provenances which stated that [two] Egyptian antiquities were part of a collection assembled by Khouli's father in Israel in the 1960s” when in fact “Khouli acquired the Egyptian antiquities from other dealers”.
He was sentenced to one year of probation, six months of home confinement and 200 hours of community service in 2012 after admitting buying and smuggling Egyptian antiquities, including coffins, funerary boats and limestone figures.

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A number of other items said to come from the collection of Ezeldeen Taha Eldarir are currently or recently for sale.
Their provenance is described in near identical terms as the British Museum shabti: bought from Salahaddin Sirmali, "authenticated and appraised" by Hossen Rashed, then imported to the US in 1948.

- An Egyptian Mummy mask dating from 700BC-30BC, is on offer for £11,807 ($15,275) online by a seller in Mexico

- A coffin lid dating back to 664BC-332BC was offered for sale by a Colorado-based art dealer, with a starting price of $65,000

- A shabti that was on sale through a Chicago-based coin dealer, dating from 1567BC-1085BC, is up for $1,950

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Mercer, the investment consulting arm of US services company Marsh & McLennan, expects its wealth division to at least double its assets under management (AUM) in the Middle East as wealth in the region continues to grow despite economic headwinds, a company official said.

Mercer Wealth, which globally has $160 billion in AUM, plans to boost its AUM in the region to $2-$3bn in the next 2-3 years from the present $1bn, said Yasir AbuShaban, a Dubai-based principal with Mercer Wealth.

Within the next two to three years, we are looking at reaching $2 to $3 billion as a conservative estimate and we do see an opportunity to do so,” said Mr AbuShaban.

Mercer does not directly make investments, but allocates clients’ money they have discretion to, to professional asset managers. They also provide advice to clients.

“We have buying power. We can negotiate on their (client’s) behalf with asset managers to provide them lower fees than they otherwise would have to get on their own,” he added.

Mercer Wealth’s clients include sovereign wealth funds, family offices, and insurance companies among others.

From its office in Dubai, Mercer also looks after Africa, India and Turkey, where they also see opportunity for growth.

Wealth creation in Middle East and Africa (MEA) grew 8.5 per cent to $8.1 trillion last year from $7.5tn in 2015, higher than last year’s global average of 6 per cent and the second-highest growth in a region after Asia-Pacific which grew 9.9 per cent, according to consultancy Boston Consulting Group (BCG). In the region, where wealth grew just 1.9 per cent in 2015 compared with 2014, a pickup in oil prices has helped in wealth generation.

BCG is forecasting MEA wealth will rise to $12tn by 2021, growing at an annual average of 8 per cent.

Drivers of wealth generation in the region will be split evenly between new wealth creation and growth of performance of existing assets, according to BCG.

Another general trend in the region is clients’ looking for a comprehensive approach to investing, according to Mr AbuShaban.

“Institutional investors or some of the families are seeing a slowdown in the available capital they have to invest and in that sense they are looking at optimizing the way they manage their portfolios and making sure they are not investing haphazardly and different parts of their investment are working together,” said Mr AbuShaban.

Some clients also have a higher appetite for risk, given the low interest-rate environment that does not provide enough yield for some institutional investors. These clients are keen to invest in illiquid assets, such as private equity and infrastructure.

“What we have seen is a desire for higher returns in what has been a low-return environment specifically in various fixed income or bonds,” he said.

“In this environment, we have seen a de facto increase in the risk that clients are taking in things like illiquid investments, private equity investments, infrastructure and private debt, those kind of investments were higher illiquidity results in incrementally higher returns.”

The Abu Dhabi Investment Authority, one of the largest sovereign wealth funds, said in its 2016 report that has gradually increased its exposure in direct private equity and private credit transactions, mainly in Asian markets and especially in China and India. The authority’s private equity department focused on structured equities owing to “their defensive characteristics.”

Other ways to buy used products in the UAE

UAE insurance firm Al Wathba National Insurance Company (AWNIC) last year launched an e-commerce website with a facility enabling users to buy car wrecks.

Bidders and potential buyers register on the online salvage car auction portal to view vehicles, review condition reports, or arrange physical surveys, and then start bidding for motors they plan to restore or harvest for parts.

Physical salvage car auctions are a common method for insurers around the world to move on heavily damaged vehicles, but AWNIC is one of the few UAE insurers to offer such services online.

For cars and less sizeable items such as bicycles and furniture, Dubizzle is arguably the best-known marketplace for pre-loved.

Founded in 2005, in recent years it has been joined by a plethora of Facebook community pages for shifting used goods, including Abu Dhabi Marketplace, Flea Market UAE and Arabian Ranches Souq Market while sites such as The Luxury Closet and Riot deal largely in second-hand fashion.

At the high-end of the pre-used spectrum, resellers such as Timepiece360.ae, WatchBox Middle East and Watches Market Dubai deal in authenticated second-hand luxury timepieces from brands such as Rolex, Hublot and Tag Heuer, with a warranty.

In numbers: PKK’s money network in Europe

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Extortion: Gunman convicted in 2023 of demanding $10,000 from Kurdish businessman in Stockholm

Drug trade: PKK income claimed by Turkish anti-drugs force in 2024 to be as high as $500 million a year

Denmark: PKK one of two terrorist groups along with Iranian separatists ASMLA to raise “two-digit million amounts”

Contributions: Hundreds of euros expected from typical Kurdish families and thousands from business owners

TV channel: Kurdish Roj TV accounts frozen and went bankrupt after Denmark fined it more than $1 million over PKK links in 2013 

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