Sadly, it's time to move on from my old relationship


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I don't know how many psychologists are at work in the UAE, or what proportion of them read The National, but however many there are, this one's for you, guys. Don't get me wrong; I'm not looking for a label, but some insight into the way my brain ticks might help me to understand where I'm going wrong in the day-trading game. Oh, sure, I've made some pretend money, more by luck than skill, but ever since I decided last week that it was time to shake up my game, sell what had become my single remaining stock and buy into some new holdings, I have been unable to act.

Now is definitely the time to sell Old Mutual. It has risen like the summer temperature in the UAE and, just as inevitably, it is bound to start falling again very soon. In fact, after several weeks of doing nothing but climb, for the past week this stock has barely held its own, trembling like a roller-coaster car that has reached the highest point on the track and is about to tip over into free-fall.

With a ceiling of only £15,000 (Dh85,675) in my practice account, plus the £1,500 or so I have made since June, liquifying all or part of my single asset is a necessary first step to branching out into fresh equities, yet every time I have logged on I have been unable to do the deed. And here's the thing, doc. I think I have fallen in love with an equity. I blame my mother. Disinterested single parent, boarding school from seven, a different "home" every school holiday. Perhaps as a consequence I have always had an emotional weakness for places (their defining virtue being that they will always be there) and inanimate objects (which, again by definition, are incapable of letting one down).

Let's just say that, if my charming Dubai Marina apartment ever caught fire (unlikely, as I neither smoke nor cook), the only things other than my passport, wallet and laptop I would grab on the way out would be Forty-Eight, the small noddy dog that sits on my desk, nodding his approval at every word I type, and my small collection of pebbles from the starkly beautiful beach at Aldeburgh on the east coast of England.

All of this irrational stuff, of course, we learn as children, as the title of a paper presented to the International Conference on Infant Studies in Kyoto, Japan, in 2006 made clear. Psychologists wanted to know whether a group of four year olds who were attached to "comfort" objects, such as blankets and toys, were attached to the unique object, or would be happy with one just like it. When they substituted exact copies, they reported in the paper: "Children treat infant transitional objects as irreplaceable possessions." The kids weren't fooled, revealing "the early emergence of sentimental reasoning ... an early and spontaneous example of the same value that adults place on sentimental possessions".

Any old nodding dog, in other words, will not do. So now, I hope, you will understand the anxiety I feel having just sold every single one of my 11,931 Old Mutual shares, leaving me with £16,451.68 to reinvest (minus commission and stamp duty for each purchase I make, of course). Emotional attachment aside, I did well out of Old Mutual. Since July 20, this stock had risen more than 24 per cent, from 111 pence a share to 138p. The trick now is going to be replacing it - and not looking back wistfully to see how it is getting on without me.

With shares, the rules have to be the same as for ex-girlfriends: no Google stalking. What now? Well, for a change, I have done some homework before charging in. My Share Centre account comes with some interesting features, few of which I have yet explored. Up till now, I have just picked stocks on the basis of gut feeling, one newspaper headline or because they have a funny-sounding name (ah, good times, Reckitt Benckiser), but now it's time to put such childishness behind me.

For the past week, I have been using a function that allows me to track the progress of shares before deciding whether to buy them, and I have had my electronic eye on four players from the same sector as Old Mutual (be still my beating heart): insurance. The thinking is this. Like Old Mutual, all four have been climbing, so there is clearly something afoot in the sector. Unlike Old Mutual, however, all four have been less volatile and, looking at their charts, appear to be in an earlier phase of the "up" part of the cycle, with much of their gain potentially still ahead of them.

And I'm listening to what the brokers say - another function available to the online Share Centre investor - about Aviva, Legal & General, Prudential and Standard Life. The first three are no-brainers, scoring 14-0, 10-1 and 11-0 on a buy-sell rating. Standard Life, however, is the odd one out, with just one broker recommending buy, one sell and 11 sitting on the fence, but I think I know why. A new chief executive took over this month and one of his first acts was to announce hundreds of redundancies - about 5 per cent of the workforce, mainly in the UK - but this is no sinking ship. David Nish has been brought in to "transform Standard Life to deliver its growth ambitions" and the other side to the cost-management coin is a £200 million investment drive.

And so in I go, spending £4,000 on each - apart from Standard Life, in which I am investing £4,300. Not because I want to put my money where my mouth is, but to avoid the revealing symmetry. If there ARE any psychologists reading this, I wouldn't want them to think I was OCD as well as the other thing. And Forty-Eight approves. @Email:jgornall@thenational.ae

Tips to avoid getting scammed

1) Beware of cheques presented late on Thursday

2) Visit an RTA centre to change registration only after receiving payment

3) Be aware of people asking to test drive the car alone

4) Try not to close the sale at night

5) Don't be rushed into a sale 

6) Call 901 if you see any suspicious behaviour

UAE currency: the story behind the money in your pockets
Specs

Engine: Duel electric motors
Power: 659hp
Torque: 1075Nm
On sale: Available for pre-order now
Price: On request

RESULT

Bournemouth 0 Southampton 3 (Djenepo (37', Redmond 45' 1, 59')

Man of the match Nathan Redmond (Southampton)

Results

4.30pm Jebel Jais – Maiden (PA) Dh60,000 (Turf) 1,000m; Winner: MM Al Balqaa, Bernardo Pinheiro (jockey), Qaiss Aboud (trainer)

5pm: Jabel Faya – Maiden (PA) Dh60,000 (T) 1,000m; Winner: AF Rasam, Tadhg O’Shea, Ernst Oertel

5.30pm: Al Wathba Stallions Cup – Handicap (PA) Dh70,000 (T) 2,200m; Winner: AF Mukhrej, Tadhg O’Shea, Ernst Oertel

6pm: The President’s Cup Prep – Conditions (PA) Dh100,000 (T) 2,200m; Winner: Mujeeb, Richard Mullen, Salem Al Ketbi

6.30pm: Abu Dhabi Equestrian Club – Prestige (PA) Dh125,000 (T) 1,600m; Winner: Jawal Al Reef, Antonio Fresu, Abubakar Daud

7pm: Al Ruwais – Group 3 (PA) Dh300,000 (T) 1,200m; Winner: Ashton Tourettes, Pat Dobbs, Ibrahim Aseel

7.30pm: Jebel Hafeet – Maiden (TB) Dh80,000 (T) 1,400m; Winner: Nibraas, Richard Mullen, Nicholas Bachalard

MATCH INFO

Quarter-finals

Saturday (all times UAE)

England v Australia, 11.15am 
New Zealand v Ireland, 2.15pm

Sunday

Wales v France, 11.15am
Japan v South Africa, 2.15pm

MATCH INFO

Uefa Champions League semi-finals, second leg:

Liverpool (0) v Barcelona (3), Tuesday, 11pm UAE

Game is on BeIN Sports

THE BIO:

Sabri Razouk, 74

Athlete and fitness trainer 

Married, father of six

Favourite exercise: Bench press

Must-eat weekly meal: Steak with beans, carrots, broccoli, crust and corn

Power drink: A glass of yoghurt

Role model: Any good man

Ziina users can donate to relief efforts in Beirut

Ziina users will be able to use the app to help relief efforts in Beirut, which has been left reeling after an August blast caused an estimated $15 billion in damage and left thousands homeless. Ziina has partnered with the United Nations High Commissioner for Refugees to raise money for the Lebanese capital, co-founder Faisal Toukan says. “As of October 1, the UNHCR has the first certified badge on Ziina and is automatically part of user's top friends' list during this campaign. Users can now donate any amount to the Beirut relief with two clicks. The money raised will go towards rebuilding houses for the families that were impacted by the explosion.”

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The specs

Engine: 4.0-litre V8 twin-turbocharged and three electric motors

Power: Combined output 920hp

Torque: 730Nm at 4,000-7,000rpm

Transmission: 8-speed dual-clutch automatic

Fuel consumption: 11.2L/100km

On sale: Now, deliveries expected later in 2025

Price: expected to start at Dh1,432,000

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The bio

Studied up to grade 12 in Vatanappally, a village in India’s southern Thrissur district

Was a middle distance state athletics champion in school

Enjoys driving to Fujairah and Ras Al Khaimah with family

His dream is to continue working as a social worker and help people

Has seven diaries in which he has jotted down notes about his work and money he earned

Keeps the diaries in his car to remember his journey in the Emirates

The specs

Engine: 5.0-litre V8

Power: 480hp at 7,250rpm

Torque: 566Nm at 4,600rpm

Transmission: 10-speed auto

Fuel consumption: L/100km

Price: Dh306,495

On sale: now

What the law says

Micro-retirement is not a recognised concept or employment status under Federal Decree Law No. 33 of 2021 on the Regulation of Labour Relations (as amended) (UAE Labour Law). As such, it reflects a voluntary work-life balance practice, rather than a recognised legal employment category, according to Dilini Loku, senior associate for law firm Gateley Middle East.

“Some companies may offer formal sabbatical policies or career break programmes; however, beyond such arrangements, there is no automatic right or statutory entitlement to extended breaks,” she explains.

“Any leave taken beyond statutory entitlements, such as annual leave, is typically regarded as unpaid leave in accordance with Article 33 of the UAE Labour Law. While employees may legally take unpaid leave, such requests are subject to the employer’s discretion and require approval.”

If an employee resigns to pursue micro-retirement, the employment contract is terminated, and the employer is under no legal obligation to rehire the employee in the future unless specific contractual agreements are in place (such as return-to-work arrangements), which are generally uncommon, Ms Loku adds.

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The specs

Price: From Dh529,000

Engine: 5-litre V8

Transmission: Eight-speed auto

Power: 520hp

Torque: 625Nm

Fuel economy, combined: 12.8L/100km

MATCH INFO

Uefa Champions League, semi-final result:

Liverpool 4-0 Barcelona

Liverpool win 4-3 on aggregate

Champions Legaue final: June 1, Madrid

Last five meetings

2013: South Korea 0-2 Brazil

2002: South Korea 2-3 Brazil

1999: South Korea 1-0 Brazil

1997: South Korea 1-2 Brazil

1995: South Korea 0-1 Brazil

Note: All friendlies

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Reading List

Practitioners of mindful eating recommend the following books to get you started:

Savor: Mindful Eating, Mindful Life by Thich Nhat Hanh and Dr Lilian Cheung

How to Eat by Thich Nhat Hanh

The Mindful Diet by Dr Ruth Wolever

Mindful Eating by Dr Jan Bays

How to Raise a Mindful Eaterby Maryann Jacobsen

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