Managing money is an essential life skill, yet many adults would fail a financial literacy test.
If you find money confusing, you’re far from alone. But the reasons you’re baffled may have more to do with how our brains work than how money does.
Understanding some of the common barriers, along with strategies to cope, could help you to get a handle on your finances.
Money is a new language
You wouldn’t expect to carry on a fluent conversation in Madrid or Mexico City if you only knew a few words of Spanish. Similarly, personal finance is loaded with terms, jargon and concepts that take a while to learn.
“Entering the world of money is like entering a whole new culture and learning a new language,” says Ed Coambs, a certified financial planner in North Carolina.
You shouldn’t feel stupid for not understanding everything instantly and no one should make you feel that way," he says. "However, learning can be more difficult if we encounter judgmental, condescending or dogmatic people — which, unfortunately, describes many people who are fluent in personal finance lingo.
“Many money experts, professional or non-professional, can become varying degrees of authoritarian: ‘Yes, I know what’s best for you. This is what you should do’.”
People with a rigid approach to personal finance may not understand the culture and life experiences that shaped you. They may insist you funnel every possible dollar into paying off debt or saving for retirement, for instance, but you may feel it’s important to give to charity or support your elderly parents.
Rather than dictating how you should spend, helpful advisers meet people where they are, says Rachael DeLeon, interim director of the Association for Financial Counselling and Planning Education, a non-profit foundation.
“It’s figuring out: what are your values? What’s important to you? And how do you make that work within your own financial situation?”
Money is emotional
For many people, money evokes strong and often negative emotions. For example, if you struggle with managing your finances, you may be so embarrassed that you try to avoid talking or even thinking about money.
“That’s what really stops people from making money progress,” Mr Coambs says. “They feel ashamed that they don’t know — and they feel like they should know.”
Painful early experiences often shape our view of money, says Mr Coambs, author of The Healthy Love & Money Way: How the Four Attachment Styles Impact Your Financial Well-Being. Listening to parents fight about money or suffering financial hardship can be traumatic, leaving us convinced that money is dangerous or shameful.
Mr Coambs suggests discussing your feelings about money with supportive and compassionate people. That could include an empathetic financial adviser, a financial therapist or trusted, knowledgeable friends.
“Action is predicated on feeling safe for many of us,” he says. “Until we feel safe and accepted, we’re typically going to feel stuck and stalled.”
Money is collaborative
Fear is another common emotion people experience around money: fear of making a mistake, not having enough, or being scammed or misled.
“There are a lot of predators in this space and knowing who to trust is hard,” Ms DeLeon says.
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Educating yourself is crucial. You can learn about personal finance basics from trusted sources, she adds.
But you also can hire people to help you. Ms DeLeon recommends fee-only advisers, meaning they’re compensated only by the fees paid by their clients rather than by commissions or other financial arrangements that could influence their advice.
Look for advisers who are fiduciaries, which means they are required to put your interests before their own. Fiduciary advisers include certified financial planners and people with the credentials to offer advice, including accredited financial counsellors and financial fitness coaches.
With money, it’s more important to know who to ask than to have all the answers ourselves, Ms DeLeon says.
“Not everybody needs to be a personal finance expert,” she adds.
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It fits so well into the UAE’s own commitment to tolerance and pluralism and coming in the year of tolerance gives it that extra dimension.
What we will see on April 20 is the foundation ceremony and we expect a pretty broad cross section of the Indian community to be present, both from the UAE and abroad. The Hindu group that is building the temple will have their holiest leader attending – and we expect very senior representation from the leadership of the UAE.
When the designs were taken to the leadership, there were two clear options. There was a New Jersey model with a rectangular structure with the temple recessed inside so it was not too visible from the outside and another was the Neasden temple in London with the spires in its classical shape. And they said: look we said we wanted a temple so it should look like a temple. So this should be a classical style temple in all its glory.
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- Don’t be afraid to use furniture to break up the space. For example, if you have a sofa placed in the middle of the room, a console unit behind it will give good punctuation.
- Use a considered collection of prints and artworks that work together to form a cohesive journey.
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Recipe
Garlicky shrimp in olive oil
Gambas Al Ajillo
Preparation time: 5 to 10 minutes
Cooking time: 5 minutes
Serves 4
Ingredients
180ml extra virgin olive oil; 4 to 5 large cloves of garlic, minced or pureed (or 3 to 4 garlic scapes, roughly chopped); 1 or 2 small hot red chillies, dried (or ¼ teaspoon dried red chilli flakes); 400g raw prawns, deveined, heads removed and tails left intact; a generous splash of sweet chilli vinegar; sea salt flakes for seasoning; a small handful of fresh flat-leaf parsley, roughly chopped
Method
▶ Heat the oil in a terracotta dish or frying pan. Once the oil is sizzling hot, add the garlic and chilli, stirring continuously for about 10 seconds until golden and aromatic.
▶ Add a splash of sweet chilli vinegar and as it vigorously simmers, releasing perfumed aromas, add the prawns and cook, stirring a few times.
▶ Once the prawns turn pink, after 1 or 2 minutes of cooking, remove from the heat and season with sea salt flakes.
▶ Once the prawns are cool enough to eat, scatter with parsley and serve with small forks or toothpicks as the perfect sharing starter. Finish off with crusty bread to soak up all that flavour-infused olive oil.
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A dice-based battle system is used and players can get the edge on their enemy with by deploying a renowned hero on the battlefield.
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PROFILE OF HALAN
Started: November 2017
Founders: Mounir Nakhla, Ahmed Mohsen and Mohamed Aboulnaga
Based: Cairo, Egypt
Sector: transport and logistics
Size: 150 employees
Investment: approximately $8 million
Investors include: Singapore’s Battery Road Digital Holdings, Egypt’s Algebra Ventures, Uber co-founder and former CTO Oscar Salazar
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Key findings
- Over a period of seven years, a team of scientists analysed dietary data from 50,000 North American adults.
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Sept 15: Bangladesh v Sri Lanka (Dubai)
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Sept 25: Group A Winner v Group B Winner (Dubai)
Sept 26: Group A Runner-up v Group B Runner-up (Abu Dhabi)
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THE BIO
Family: I have three siblings, one older brother (age 25) and two younger sisters, 20 and 13
Favourite book: Asking for my favourite book has to be one of the hardest questions. However a current favourite would be Sidewalk by Mitchell Duneier
Favourite place to travel to: Any walkable city. I also love nature and wildlife
What do you love eating or cooking: I’m constantly in the kitchen. Ever since I changed the way I eat I enjoy choosing and creating what goes into my body. However, nothing can top home cooked food from my parents.
Favorite place to go in the UAE: A quiet beach.
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- 5 wins in 22 months as pro
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The bio
Favourite book: Peter Rabbit. I used to read it to my three children and still read it myself. If I am feeling down it brings back good memories.
Best thing about your job: Getting to help people. My mum always told me never to pass up an opportunity to do a good deed.
Best part of life in the UAE: The weather. The constant sunshine is amazing and there is always something to do, you have so many options when it comes to how to spend your day.
Favourite holiday destination: Malaysia. I went there for my honeymoon and ended up volunteering to teach local children for a few hours each day. It is such a special place and I plan to retire there one day.
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Fines for littering
In Dubai:
Dh200 for littering or spitting in the Dubai Metro
Dh500 for throwing cigarette butts or chewing gum on the floor, or littering from a vehicle.
Dh1,000 for littering on a beach, spitting in public places, throwing a cigarette butt from a vehicle
In Sharjah and other emirates
Dh500 for littering - including cigarette butts and chewing gum - in public places and beaches in Sharjah
Dh2,000 for littering in Sharjah deserts
Dh500 for littering from a vehicle in Ras Al Khaimah
Dh1,000 for littering from a car in Abu Dhabi
Dh1,000 to Dh100,000 for dumping waste in residential or public areas in Al Ain
Dh10,000 for littering at Ajman's beaches
